if there's one thing i have learned from the women before me, it is not to make huge life altering sacrifices for men. They do not deserve such loyalty and commitment
normalize saying “unfortunately you’re no longer a safe person for me and I refuse to continually sacrifice my nervous system to make you feel comfortable”
You cannot reconcile with people who refuse to be honest about how they mishandled you. Reconciliation requires accountability. Otherwise, you’re just being asked to make peace with the same behavior that hurt you.
you ever realize the reason you felt so confused wasn't because the situation was complicated. it was because their words kept giving you hope while their actions kept taking it away.