April Brasher

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

In today’s marriages there is entirely too much EGO & a serious lack of HUMILITY.‼️Your ego has no place when dealing with your spouse. It causes one to not listen to reason. Where as humility allows for openness to correction & positive discourse‼️Put your ego in your pocket!!!!

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

Friendly Reminder:

So when you’re married you do actually sign up “for the bad” just as well as “the good.” Not saying you have to “accept” all of the bad because we all have enough discernment to know what shouldn’t be tolerated. My point is “the bad” comes with the marriage‼️

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

Question Ladies??

Does “being equally yoked” to a man HAVE TO also mean financially??

Are women “dating down” or “marrying down” when they make more (or significantly more) money than the man??

Are women of today entirely too caught up in the OPTICS when choosing a partner??

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

Black men deserve love that doesn’t require him spending money first!!! And ladies let’s not overthink this one‼️😑

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

DEAR SINGLE FOLKS…..

REMINDER: In 2024 the man or woman you choose to be your partner will affect everything in your life: your mental health, your peace of mind, your self esteem, your happiness, your success, your confidence, your trajectory and so much more. Choose wisely!!

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

@danteadams01 @RapSheet 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Good one

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

Dear Black People……

We throw around the term “Black Love” all the time. But please OVERstand this:

Black Love doesn’t just apply to Black people in Black marriages & Black relationships…it also applies to how we as Black people, treat one another as Black people in general!

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

It's soooo many people on social media & the internet GIVING AWAY all kinds of "FREE" game but so many of you so CHEAP you don't even want to "PAY" attention. So many of you gotta whole computer right in your hand but your broke mentality leads you to BELIEVE it's a "cell phone."

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

#UnpopularOpinion Marriage is just as much, if not more, about DUTY…than it is about Happiness!!! You’re not going to always be “happy” in your marriage!!! When that occurs, that’s when the DUTY of marriage gets you through the hard times‼️

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

REAL women love EFFORT‼️
You DONT have to be richest‼️
You DONT have to be the flyest‼️
But trust me, if you are a HONEST HARD
WORKING man, she WILL have your
back through thick n thin‼️

Not ALL women want this BS TRANSACTIONAL ONLY “love” that seems to be promoted on out here!!

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

DEAR FAMILY❤️🖤💚

Lets be clear...and this is NOT up for debate...

Black men NEED Black women & Black women NEED Black men‼️This MUST be OVERstood!! So can we please end this Civil War that seems to be going on between us!!!! Lets HEAL one another!!!! It's sooooo necessary‼️✊🏾

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

QUESTION OF THE DAY‼️

It’s been over 20 years since I’ve been out in these dating streets & I see both single men & single women use the term “simp” or “simping.” So my question is:

What’s the difference between “being nice” and “being a simp”?

It seems like a very thin line!!

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

Happy Monday Family!!!❤️🖤💚

Friendly Reminder…

10 years from now our kids will either EAT or STARVE based off the decisions we make TODAY‼️Let’s make sure it’s the former & not the latter‼️💯

I’m wishing each & everyone of you a KICKAZZ week!! Happy Monday now🗣️🗣️LOCK IN‼️🔒

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

So I’m seeing BOTH Don Lemon & Tucker Carson got fired today. I truly hate to see anyone get fired!! But with that said….

Y’all….🤦🏾‍♀️

We gotta OVERstand this key IMPERATIVE important point: if you give them the power to feed you, you also give them the power to starve you‼️💯

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

Friendly Reminder……

You either get PAID for the decisions you made years ago, or you PAY for the decisions you made years ago. The choice is yours‼️

This is why good “life decision making” must be a MASTERED skill‼️💯

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

The effects that slavery, Black Codes, Jim Crow, LEGAL segregation, supposed “separate but equal”, housing discrimination, job discrimination, business loan discrimination, redlining, & CoInTelPro (the list is longer) is still immeasurable TO THIS DAY!!! DO YOUR HOMEWORK!!!🗣️🗣️

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

As a Black woman I’m growing more & more frustrated when I see SOME Black women tell Black men on social media how the men should pay for everything….INCLUDING the house they live in. Some of these SAME Black women will also ignorantly say “well white men do it for their women.”

[April Brasher @totalbodiedbyap]

Oh and this DATA/NUMBERS are no FAULT of Black men! STOP with the unrealistic expectations of our men! Please study & OVERstand the CRISIS that is known as “the lack of REAL Black wealth.” Y’all be letting these Black CELEBRITIES & social media fool y’all AND it’s all by DESIGN!!