As a man, after you cross 30, sit down and study the patterns in your family. Look at what distracted, delayed, or derailed the men before you. Look at what destroyed them. Your father, his brothers, your uncles, older cousins etc... is it booze, is it gambling, is it women, is it recklessly siring everywhere, is it poor financial decisions, did they struggle with deep anger issues, domestic terrorists, did they practice witchcraft and all that.
Sit down and study those patterns,, then make intentional decisions to break those cycles. Remember some of these things are normal vices. Look for a recurring or deep recognizable patterns that are plastered all over men in your family. What brought them down. Do you see a pattern? Now that!
As Joshua Selman always says “As a man, number one thing that will help you live to your potential is knowing what can bring you down”. And you may not run away from your family tree. Refuse to be a victim of repeated patterns. Because they are there.
Whether you know it or not. Whether you recognize them or you don’t. They exist. They didn’t have the knowledge and resources we now have. Honor your progeny. Break out of them. Be made of Gold.
The city is no longer a dream; it is a trap with rent, taxes, bills, joblessness and hunger waiting at the door. Go back home. Build in the village. Plant food. Keep animals. Create your own survival system. A difficult time is coming, and the State will not save you.
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Uzincame utshate umtsonga, sogqiba utyelwe lindiya? Oh I hate the rainbow nation that we are in South Africa. No one in the world goes through this 😭😭😭
Yes it gets lonely here and there but the peace that comes with not being attached to anyone? Oh my goodness I used to pray for days like this. No one ruins your day because they disappeared on you or they didn’t reply to a text you just live your life in peace nje ke light man
Normalise a boring life.
Go to bed early. Read long books. Drink tea. Regulate your nervous system. Spend time alone. Go for walks without headphones. Eat simple Food. Shrink your circle. Turn down the noise.
Life doesn’t have to be loud to be magical.
If there is one thing I can tell you is; God heals. He completely restores. To a point where you will feel nothing nor will you be moved.
The peace and comfort you will have can not be explained.
Just don’t bow down to foreign gods. Wait on the timing of the Lord. ❤️🥺
I get blown away every time I read this paragraph by Carl Jung:
To love someone else is easy, but to love what you are, the thing that is yourself, is just as if you were embracing a glowing red-hot iron: it burns into you and that is very painful. Therefore, to love somebody else in the first place is always an escape which we all hope for, and we all enjoy it when we are capable of it. But in the long run, it comes back on us. You cannot stay away from yourself forever, you have to return, have to come to that experiment, to know whether you really can love. That is the question-whether you can love yourself, and that will be the test.