The reason most people can’t do a silent cutoff has nothing to do with closure. It has everything to do with people-pleasing. People think every ending requires a conversation. It doesn’t. Sometimes the behavior was the conversation. Sometimes the disrespect was the explanation. Sometimes the pattern was the closure.
if you come into my life, come because you want to be here. come because when the choice is between me and the life without me, there is no debate happening inside you. come with both feet inside the door. come knowing that i am going to love you with the same terrifying fullness i have always loved with, and knowing that i need somewhere safe for all of that love to go.
My boyfriend called my cooking trash and then told me there better be food waiting for him tomorrow. I told him to order DoorDash. Now apparently I’m “not a real woman.”
I found someone I never want to lose & that’s me…. Fuck y’all. I done lost sleep, ignored my gut, lowered my standards AND begged for bare minimum trying to keep people. Never again. I’m the one I’m scared to lose now. 💜
this generation got people embarrassed to live NORMAL. it’s okay to work a regular job. it’s okay to drive an older car. it’s okay to cook at home instead of eating out every night. it’s okay to save for a vacation instead of pretending you can afford one. read it again.