normalize seeing someone's lack of effort as their lack of interest in YOU and your lack of importance to them regardless of what they tell you or how much you love them
I’m always very mindful of how I speak to someone when I’m upset, I make sure there is still respect. I never forget things people say to me in their anger. some people say rude and terrible things and words are powerful, they can leave scars and imprints on the mind.
U.K. racism is soo much worse than US because this country is in denial that it even exist. You will go to HR and say someone called you monkey and their response would be “well I get called a giraffe because I’m tall”
how your partner reacts to your sadness & things that bother you, should tell you all you need to know about how long the relationship should last.