in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you created.
this concept broke my brain for a while because most connections seem generally fulfilling until you meet someone who makes your soul feel like it just returned home….
Then having to be like “I may never feel that again” is a different kind of mind altering grief.
It’s hard to impress me with intellect at this point, I am most moved by how someone makes me feel. It presents to me a much greater fluency in someone’s intelligence, if they can drop below the mind and into the body, and connect from a place of sincere, embodied connection.
“Do you want kids” actually I want to be so deeply and safely inlove with a genuine, handsome, considerate, emotionally intelligent, healed provider of a man that the only feasible next option is to make him a father.