Dr. Oluwatoyin

Gender and Development Professional; Gender, Feminist Researcher. I love Africa.

[Dr. Oluwatoyin @tythinks1]

Whoop whoop.. bringing this back!

[♡⃝ @wine_x13]

Loneliness, when experienced by women, is treated like a joke. The stereotypical image of the crazy cat lady has been mocked for centuries. Warning other women not to be too selective or too0 demanding, or else you'll end up like her. But when men are "lonely" (when women refuse to engage with certain men) suddenly it's an epidemic and a crisis requiring analysis by psychologists and hundreds of articles telling why these poor men are so lonely.

[Dr. Oluwatoyin @tythinks1]

@omotomilola Just run away and never come back. 😂😅

[Dr. Oluwatoyin @tythinks1]

Congratulations.

[Adesuwa G @Adesuwa_G]

My documentary on diabetes has won a Merck foundation award!

[Dr. Oluwatoyin @tythinks1]

@BigBadReni Fair enough

[Ibironke Khadeejah Quadri @ronkecarew]

They defend mass weddings but won't advocate for mass education and poverty reduction. The joke writes itself, what a shame

[Dr. Oluwatoyin @tythinks1]

**as well.

[Dr. Oluwatoyin @tythinks1]

I understand this angle but I think people who discuss abortion may want to destigmatise it through open communication. These discussions can sensitise as we.

[Spirit of Conver$ion! @BigBadReni]

One thing we can learn from our mothers is having “asiri”.

Learn to keep secrets as a woman, bc idk why tf you people are arguing abortion with men.

Are they helping you carry the baby? 🥴

[𝐄.🚩 @Wyd_eshuu]

why do "balls" imply toughness and "pussy" imply weakness when the slightest flick to the nuts sends a guy to his knees, yet a vagina can push out an entire being.?????

[Nkay @carlella1]

The fact that submission is considered humiliating for men but not for women tells me we all know exactly what we are doing.

[Jola @Jollz]

Our language around governance is so interesting in Nigeria. We talk like when someone wins an election, the money and resources of the state become their personal largesse and any progress or work that happens is because they’re kind enough to “dash” us.

[Mapholoba @LuthandoFuze]

Sexual assault is ALSO begging ugirl to have sex with you until she finally gives in.
It's called COERCION! If you gotta force or beg or TRICK somebody to have sex with you , then it's not right!

[ESQUIRE WEY DEY FIRE 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 @Eneegmanuelllll]

There's this FCT High Court judge who derives pleasure in deriding Female Lawyers who appear before him.

If he's not insulting you for your choice of hair/hairstyle, he's questioning your marital status and marriageability or outrightly bodyshaming you.

I have it on good authority that a Female lawyer once announced her appearance and announced her Junior Colleague who was a Male as 'Appearing with me'. My Lord rhetorically asked why a Man should be led in proceedings by a Woman.

Oh, the things we go through in Litigation.

I believe there should be a high level of mutual respect between the Bar and the Bench.

I'm not a Woman, but I hope FIDA and the NBA Women's Forum does something about this soon.

[Dr. Oluwatoyin @tythinks1]

I certainly do not.

[𝐔𝐜𝐡𝐞 𝐕𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲🧚‍♀️ @veekeeuche]

Women with PhDs do not care about impressing men.

[Molara Wood @molarawood]

Those ladies in Kenya and SA that made it their life's work to store, label and preserve indigenous seeds and protect seed sovereignty, they are doing the work of God.

[Lagos DSVA @Lagosdsva]

JUSTICE HAS BEEN SERVED ⚖️

Hon. Justice Abiola Soladoye of the Lagos State Sexual Offences and Domestic Violence Court, sitting in Ikeja, convicted and sentenced a school proprietor, Benson Arinze, to life imprisonment for sexually assaulting a six-year-old pupil.

His name will be registered in the Sexual Offenders Register as maintained by Lagos State in line with Sections 33 and 38 of the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency Law, 2021.

The judge delivered the judgement on Wednesday, 20 May 2026, after finding him guilty of a one-count charge bordering on Sexual Assault by Penetration.

The survivor, whose identity has been withheld, was a pupil of Nurtured Brooks Nursery and Primary School, Ibeju-Lekki, owned by the convict. According to the prosecution, “Arinze took advantage of the period the child stayed behind after school to sexually assault her.”

When the survivor’s mother noticed unusual behaviour from her daughter and questioned her about it, the child subsequently disclosed “the repeated sexual abuse she had been subjected to within the school premises.”

The matter was thereafter reported to the Elemoro Police Station by the survivor's father.

In her judgement, Hon. Justice Soladoye held that the evidence led by the prosecution established the guilt of the convict beyond a reasonable doubt.

She further held that “the evidence adduced by the defence witnesses was merely self-serving and failed to discredit the case of the prosecution.”

According to the prosecution, the offence committed contravened Section 261 of the Criminal Laws of Lagos State, 2015, and consequently, the court sentenced Arinze to life imprisonment.

Let’s continuously break the culture of silence !

Report any case of Domestic or Sexual Violence by calling our toll-free line - 08000-333-333.

#LagosDSVA #SGBVItConcernsUsAll #SGBVNotInMyLagos #AGreaterLagosRising #LASG @followlasg

[Martha Ahumuza @MarthaAhumuza]

It must be nice being a man because no matter how mediocre, unremarkable or directionless you are, there’s comfort in knowing someone has been socialized to look at you like a leader.

[‘sy @salbxt]

language isn't just for talking; for oral cultures like ours, it’s the archive. names like "ojuelegba" or "ibadan" hold the exact history of how those spaces were founded. because our ancestors codified history in words rather than books, losing a language means erasing their legacy.

look at river niger. losing its original name allowed mungo park to claim he "discovered" it. look at our ancient immunization practices; all wiped out & western-labeled because we lost the vocabulary. minimal languages mean maximum erasure.

fyi:

ojú-Ìbọ ẹlẹ́gba, meaning "the spot of the worship for ẹlẹ́gba. the area was a sacred grove dedicated to the deity of fate/the crossroads.

ìbàdàn is from ẹ̀bá ọ̀dàn, meaning "the junction of the savanna & the forest." the name is a literally geographic map explaining the exact ecological zone where the empire was founded.

for every language we lose, we lose the story/legacy of everything that once existed or emanated from there.

[Mai & Global Consulting Partners @MaiandGCP]

This is actually a brilliant observation that deserves a proper answer. You are not wrong about what you are seeing. But what you are describing is exactly how languages disappear without anyone noticing.

Adamawa alone has over 40 documented languages. Bura, Vere, Chamba, Gaanda, Lala, Bacchama, Bata, Marghi and more and no they are not variations as you pointed out.

But most of them are slowly being swallowed by Hausa and Fulani because those are the languages of trade, mobility and survival.

So yes, your Borno security guard speaks Shuwa Arabic and your Sokoto okada man speaks Hausa and they understand each other perfectly. That does not mean only one language exists. It means one language won the economic argument. This is what linguists call language assimilation. The dominant language does not erase the others overnight. It just makes them less useful for daily survival until the younger generation stops learning them entirely.

Now here are the facts. Ethnologue, which is the world's most authoritative database on languages, currently documents 520 living indigenous languages in Nigeria alone. Not dialects. Languages. Nigeria has also already lost 12 indigenous languages or more to extinction. Gone forever.

The Middle Belt is where this becomes undeniable. Plateau State alone has over 50 distinct languages. Keyword "Dinstinct".

Benue has Tiv, Idoma, Igede and more. Taraba has communities that cannot understand their neighbours two villages away without a translator. Your Yoruba example actually proves the point perfectly. The fact that a Yoruba person can move across the Southwest and be understood is evidence of one dominant language absorbing regional variations over centuries. That process happened. It is still happening everywhere else in Nigeria right now.

Now I am willing to bet you have never heard of Hyam, Ngas, Mwaghavul, Berom, Amo, Buji, Sura, Anaguta, or Irigwe from Plateau State. Or Kilba, Huba, Bura-Pabir, and Chibok from Borno. Or Mumuye, Jenjo, Yukuben, and Wurkum from Taraba. Or Tur, Nyandang, Kugama and Taram further into the riverine communities nobody talks about. Or what about Igala, Ebira, Bassange, Bassa-Nge, Kakanda and Oworo from Kogi alone. I have not even touched Rivers, Cross River, Bayelsa, Edo, Ondo, or Nasarawa yet. You want to know exactly where each of these is spoken? You will have to tour Nigeria for that. And I promise you, this country will humble you in ways no map ever could. The 500 languages are not cap. Most of them are just quietly dying (Bura has an estimated 11,000 speakers with most young Bura people now not able to speak the language) while we debate whether they exist. And that is the real conversation Nigeria should be having.

[Iyaloja of Fields 🙌🏽 @bisolabadejo]

There is also a conversation we need to have with Christian men.

Because some of you speak about women with an underhanded disdain that is deeply un-Christlike, then hide behind “biblical order” to justify it.

You cannot simply look at every Christian woman who resonates with feminism and dismiss her as rebellious. History has shown women have had reasons to fight. The Church is not entirely innocent in the abuse and silencing of women. We have sometimes weaponized Scripture instead of rightly dividing it.

Some women did not become angry because they hate God. They became angry because people used God against them.

There are women who have been talked down to, ignored, diminished, spiritually manipulated, and emotionally controlled in church spaces while men quoted “submission” at them like a threat.

And when women begin to push back against that, you cannot automatically label them rebellious without enough humility to ask:

“What exactly are they reacting to?”

Because even in Scripture, God did not condemn women who challenged systems.

The daughters of Zelophehad fought.
They contended.
They challenged a structure that disadvantaged them.

And God said:

“The daughters of Zelophehad speak right.” (Numbers 27:7)

Not rebellious.
Not dishonorable.
Not with the spirit of Jezebel…
Right.

Some of you need to realize that being male does not automatically make your interpretation superior.

Statements like:

“Woman was created later, therefore she is lesser,”
“Eve was deceived, therefore women are inferior,”
“Men are naturally superior because Adam came first,”

do not make you sound spiritually mature. They make you sound biblically unintelligent.

Genesis 1 says:

“Male and female created he them.”

God did not create woman as an afterthought. He had both genders in mind from the beginning.

And Genesis 2 is not about superiority.
It is about order.

Order does not mean value.

Christ and the Church have order.
The Father and the Son have order.
Order is not inferiority.

In fact, biblical leadership is not domination.
Christ never used His position to belittle the Church, He died for her.

So how did some Christian men become more arrogant than Christ?

You brandish submission like a weapon.
You speak about masculinity like it is superiority.
You talk about women as though leadership means lordship.

News flash, you are not a biblical male. You are carnally minded and we all know what that means.

To lead in our Kingdom is to serve. Where is your service?!

And if creation order is your argument for superiority, then goats should be greater than men because animals were created before Adam.

The logic collapses immediately.

The truth is many women are angry because they encountered distortion disguised as doctrine.
Male ego preached as theology.
Misogyny defended with proof texts.

And instead of constantly rushing to call women rebellious, maybe Christian men need enough self-awareness to ask:

“Have we represented Christ properly?”

Because many women are not rejecting Christ.
They are reacting to men who looked nothing like Him.

Love and Light… with a sprinkle of Holy Ghost Fire.

[𝑩𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒉 @_HerMajestee]

My son removed me from the family group chat because, as he put it, “Mom, it was for working adults.” I said nothing.

I went back to feeding the chickens, checking the fence line, and writing in the little farm notebook they all used to laugh at.

One week later, twelve of them arrived with suitcases, meat, coolers, and weekend plans, certain I would leave the key under the flowerpot again.

But this time, the gate was locked…