The Preferred

Author, Psychologist, Business Coach, Writer

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

This in every sense of the word is true... This is why abstinence is key...

[Lukas Not Podolski @OtitoNosike]

Sex, in many ways, is a possession ritual.

Not in the occultic or demonic sense, no—but in a deeply psychological one. It’s an act that grants access—not just to the body, but to the mind. To sleep with someone is to leave an imprint on their psyche, to be etched, however faintly, onto the chalkboard of their memory.

Whether we admit it or not, we remember those who’ve entered us—or whom we’ve entered. It’s why sex is never just sex. It leaves traces. It creates mental loyalties. It forges invisible ties.

This is precisely why a woman often hesitates. Why she withholds. Especially when she meets someone new. She knows what’s at stake. She knows that if she gives in too quickly—and the man is good, really good—then he doesn’t just take her body. He leaves a stamp. He becomes a reference point. A standard. A ghost she might struggle to exorcise.

And men? Men understand this too, even if they don’t admit it out loud. It’s why many of them drown themselves in aphrodisiacs, performance enhancers, and all manner of virility boosters—not necessarily to enjoy the sex, but to perform. To impress. Because deep down, they know that women remember the ones who make them feel most alive between the sheets. The ones who crack something open in them. And once that happens, something shifts—attachments form. Preferences solidify. Decisions follow.

This is also where chastity comes in—not as some archaic religious punishment, but as a guardrail. A mental firewall. When we abstain, we prevent our hearts from building hierarchies of desire—ranking Person A above Person B simply because Person A fucks better. And whether we like it or not, we do this. All of us. We keep score. We compare. We pine. And then we choose, not based on values or shared futures, but based on who activated the most primal part of us.

It is the reason why a married woman may still ache for a past lover. Why a man may leave a stable home to chase the thrill of a more skilled partner. Because once sex is introduced, objectivity is compromised. Boundaries blur. Soul ties form. Our decisions become less about what makes sense—and more about what makes us feel.

That’s why the ancients outlawed fornication. Not because they were clueless or prudish, but because they understood something our generation scoffs at: that sex, uncontrolled, untethered, ungoverned—leads to confusion. To misaligned unions. To misplaced loyalty. To heartbreaks that feel like spiritual warfare.

The moment we start to fornicate, we stop seeing people for who they are—and start seeing them for what they do to us. And when that becomes the basis of our love, our choices begin to betray us.

Because let’s face it: most of us aren’t choosing from wisdom anymore. We’re choosing from memory. From sensation. From imprint.

And yet, we dare to call it freedom—this drifting from body to body, chasing echoes of pleasure we mistake for connection. But real freedom isn’t in indulgence. It’s in discernment. What we parade today as liberation may, in truth, be the most elegant form of bondage.

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@AAjebowale @josh_uglyasf May God also protect our sons. Some of these men were groomed by some women too.
I have had to listen and handle some cases in the past, boys molested and introduced to these evil vices by some so called aunties.

Our sons and daughters are not safe. We need to look out for them

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@temmyt007_ @ondihobakuliho @Bigsamyyyy @AjeboWriter Lol... laff don finish me

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@kallyrose200 @DonOlatunji @yabaleftonline Understandable... some things are never funny when they happen. The moment of laughter is after
said and done.

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@TheYorubaTimes Some Nigerians are not properly ok in the head. The monster of bigotry they are creating will come home to roost..

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@Kofigordon1 @Unwanaassam1 @yabaleftonline How you all assume that when people share things they are telling lies beats my imagination. A friend's uncle died and they moved the corpse by bus from Jtown to Easten Nig. People do it.

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@DonOlatunji @kallyrose200 @yabaleftonline I burst into laughter when I read that...

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@Jahchriso @johndoee_pa There is no point replying the welps... A woman went thru a process that many went thru and never came back alive, and all they are trying to do is bring down such a beautiful woman.

The comments reveal many people with wacked minds who have never known love...

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@johndoee_pa @Jahchriso You are in her body or her personal doctor to know she is unhealthy???

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@Hamix37 You should actually shut up

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@Hamix37 @InnocentBassey7 But you are the one crying here....

[David Hundeyin @DavidHundeyin]

You can remain in your fool's paradise and dismiss the simple addition of 2 and 2 to get 4 as "conspiracy theory" if it makes you feel better, but facts are very stubborn things. Especially when they are written and on public record.

A known drug pusher ran for president under the ruling party in a 3rd world country. A journalist who knew that federal drug trafficking investigations in the US typically involve more than one investigating agency got hold of his IRS indictment and submitted FOIA requests to the DEA and FBI.

On the strength of the extensive IRS indictment alone, he was able to publish a story that became the documentary in my pinned tweet. Later on, with help from an American FOIA activist Aaron Greenspan, he filed an FOIA lawsuit in Washington DC, targeting the FBI, CIA, IRS, DEA, State Department and the Department of Justice (US Attorneys Office).

The judge assigned to the case was Beryl Howell, a lifelong, card-carrying Democrat who was appointed to the Federal bench by Barack Obama, and whose prior work had been pivotal to expanding the Freedom Of Information Act itself.
https://t.co/XCNrbHlpJk

Heck, she had even previously received a a journalism award for her work protecting and expanding the FOIA, especially where it concerned giving the public access to key information about public officials. If there was any judge that should have seen the need for the public to have access to criminal drug trafficking investigation records pertaining to the president of an entire country (he had been declared "winner" by this time), it should have been Beryl Howell.

Instead, she first dicked the lawsuit around for 6 months, and then when the drug pusher's lawyer intervened and applied to be admitted to the lawsuit, she immediately granted the motion citing the following as her reason:

"Tinubu has a cognizable interest that may be impaired because the FOIA requests at issue pertain to information about him that would implicate his privacy interests."

Subsequently, the FBI released the investigation records but redacted every mention of his name, claiming a "national security" exemption. The CIA said "we can neither confirm nor deny," which is government-speak for "go fuck yourself." The DEA refused to release its files claiming a "privacy" exemption for the drug pusher, because again, not even the interests of 200 million humans are as important as the "privacy" of a drug trafficker who gets to lead them. The State Department agreed to release its files and then later reversed itself and lied that it never said so, eventually releasing only 13 pages that were ENTIRELY redacted - another diplomatic "go fuck yourself." Finally the IRS - the one whose indictment the journalist saw, which started the whole thing - claimed that it had lost all its files on the drug pusher and "cannot locate" them.

And then you will tell me that this drug pusher - on whose behalf the entire US government contorted itself into pretzels, commiting judicial malpratice and multiple perjuries in its own federal court - is not a US puppet? The US is in the habit of lying in written court documents to protect African drug dealers just for the craic of it? There's nothing in it for them?

All of you might agree to be stupid because American approval means more to you than your own lives and the future of your own children, but not everyone will agree to be stupid at the same time. I personally do not aspire to be a stupid good doggie for anyone.

Even if there is only one person from the 210 million Nigerians in existence who refuses to be stupid, I volunteer to be that one person.

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@Gardenrhoish @DeeOneAyekooto Lol... na real aboniki

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@olujnext @DeeOneAyekooto Did they place a curse anywhere or make it an anathema for you to fly into the business?

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@DeeOneAyekooto What would you be doing? How about YOU go into the middleman business? Is there anywhere where restrictions were placed on you, or is it an anathema for you to go into the business?

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@slimmed_in @Princew1ll @FunmiKolz @eevlyn22 Interesting, at what point did you and I get into an argument? Has the definition of argument changed yet?

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@slimmed_in @Princew1ll @FunmiKolz @eevlyn22 Why do you think she will want to get pregnant in the midst of this suffering? Is that the plan you have for her? Are you the one who will do the job?

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@PR0SP_ER @eevlyn22 @nunchucks0000 He denied you and said he doesn't want you.... That's the answer

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@IamUzoejinwa @KingSuleiman27 @eevlyn22 Ohhhh... the guy who knew he was going to japa could not keep it between his legs and in his pants? He just needed someone to use and dump right...

[The Preferred @Ukmighty]

@Adaete1 @eevlyn22 You understand.... It just doesn't make sense . Don't sniff or lick the oil on the meat when you don't want to eat it.