I'm increasingly convinced that the ultimate sign of growth is faster recovery. You still get upset. You still make mistakes. You still have bad days. But you return to center faster.
Apologize faster. Reset faster. Learn faster. Fast recovery compounds.
turns out, reading voraciously, moving your body, loving people without keeping score, protecting your solitude, chasing nothing but your own growth, and occasionally staying out too late with people who make you laugh until it hurts is not a bad way to build a life.
Unpopular opinion: I don't think your life has to have a purpose, or you a grand ambition; I think it's okay to just wander through life finding interesting things until you die
Stop spending your best years indoors. There's a whole actual world out there with real people, real experiences, real memories waiting to be made. You cannot look back on your 20s and be proud of the hours you wasted on screens in a dark room. Go outside. Talk to people. Feel things. You were not put on this earth to spectate life.
I’m in love with this sentence:
“The degree to which a person can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth he can accept about himself without running away.”
You’re standing on a planet with molten lava at its core. Trees are turning sunlight into air you can breathe. Your heart is beating without you asking it to. There’s a moon in the sky and bugs that glow. This whole thing is absurdly beautiful. Don’t forget to notice it.
In 200yrs from now, a whole new set of humans will walk on this Earth. We all will be gone. Strangers will live in your house not knowing that you 200yrs ago slept in the same room. No one will remember us. No one will visit our grave. No one will talk about us. We will just be another part of history, So no, it's not that deep.
Your brain doesn't age because of time. It ages because of repetition. The more predictable your days become, the faster your neurons quiet down. Your brain builds neural pathways based on experience. New experiences create new connections. Repetition strengthens old ones. But when you repeat the same patterns for years, your brain stops building. That's why time feels faster as you age. Your brain stops encoding new memories. It just references old ones. A year at 40 feels shorter than a year at 10, because at 10, everything was new. At 40, everything is familiar. But neuroplasticity doesn't stop. You can still grow new neurons. You can still learn. You can still change. You just have to break the loop. Your brain will wake up. And time will slow down again.
"make him worry about things, make him imagine a negative future, make him utilize costly brain energy to feel miserable, over and over again until he goes crazy"