The DM maths no one talks about:
Let’s say I get 30 messages a day from strangers who think they are owed my attention by default.
~ 3 minutes each to read, assess and reply. That's 90 minutes a day.
10.5 hours a week.
Around 45 hours a month: a full working week, unpaid, spent on strangers who felt entitled to a reply because they want to get to know me.
And the rules we're given are impossible:
Ignore them? (The gold standard for women like me) Heartless. Greedy. Opportunistic. Grandiose. Shallow.
Reply to everyone? Desperate. Male-centred.
Reply only to the ones that seem sincere? That's where it can get dangerous. Some will try to negotiate or shame you out of your standards. Others will insult you for having them.
Those 3 minutes are the best case. One unhinged person in your DMs can cost you a whole morning, your focus, your peace. The worst ones don't stay in your inbox. They can follow you around with unwanted watching for years.
So no, my silence isn't cruelty.
My standards aren't arrogance.
Both exist because I've done this maths for years.
Women with an open inbox, creators, anyone who's ever been called cold for not replying: how many hours a month would your DMs cost you if you opened, read and replied to every one? Let's put a real number on it.
3 years later…
1st game- obvious dps Smurf
2nd game- AFK player
3rd game- I had to do double the dmg our DPS did
BLEAK. OUTLOOK IS BLEAK.
Something about the sun going down so early made me want to play vidya again.
I think I’m gonna go microneedle my face instead 🫠
G’mornin 🫡 I grinded solo Q from D4 to M5 last night on a whim lol
And was immediately reminded why it is not worth it :-) I was 15-3 and then immediately lost 3 games, won 2, lost 3.
Maybe bc it got later?
This happened last time too, though. The people are just rotten.
I hate when people rush me 🙂���️ I love being a cutie pie about raunchy things and cultivating a high-femme experience.
You can have it good, or you can have it fast.
Maybe you can have it fast /and/ good, but not from me💕
I’m thoughtful, not robotic. I’m farm-to-table, not factory.
Remember these things.