There are photos in my phone that erode my trust and loosen my tether, I call them the mood destructors and they serve no purpose other than to shoot shrapnel directly into my brain upon contact
anxious avoidants be like Wow i feel like their tone was Off & now i feel unwanted & they’re prob gonna abandon me bc Surely this is what that means & i like them sm i don’t want that to ever happen so to protect myself i will pull away First & leave so they can’t hurt me
i don’t wanna open up, but i wanna be noticed. but if i’m noticed they’re gonna ask me questions, and i don’t wanna answer questions cause that means opening up
Ghosting not out of cruelty, but rather because it genuinely just does not click for you that it’s even possible for you specifically to hurt people through lack of attention when you’re so deeply convinced that your presence is only ever merely tolerated, not powerfully wanted