Happy people, don't attack you. It's almost physically impossible. They're not saying anything bad about you. They're not thinking anything bad. They are not acting on anything to hurt you. If somebody attacks you, it's for one reason only, they are not happy with themselves. It has nothing to do with you.
The feeling that you can't describe is because you're disconnected to your body. It is a trauma response. When we suppress our true feelings to survive, we slowly disconnect to our body. We can't decode its reactions. Once you start to reconnect to your body, you'll start to notice when your body feels uncomfortable in the moment itself. Keep going, keep healing, you got this!
Grab a plate and throw it on the ground.
-Okay, done.
Did it break?
-Yes
Now say sorry to it.
-Sorry.
Did it go back to the way it was before?
-No.
Now, do you understand?
We can be cordial, but we can't be close. I am no longer pretending that we are, what we aren't. I am no longer going above and beyond to foster relationships that are one-sided. There's no hate or drama. Simply put, where there is misalignment, I am opting out.
Maturity is staying calm in situations where someone may be talking falsely and saying false narratives about you to other people. Because in the end, you know that the truth is going to reveal itself. 9 times out of 10, the person who's talking about you is enjoying the attention they are getting from talking about you.
We can not convince people to value things that they already find to be worthless by providing more if it, whether that be your love, your time, or your energy.
It is not the strongest of theΒ species that survives, not the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.
Charles Darwin
when we're in a situation where someone makes us uncomfortable and we choose to be polite instead of honest, all we're doing is holding onto all that discomfort for ourselves when the other person SHOULD be uncomfortable.