it's extremely important to realize that you were beautiful before someone noticed and you'll remain beautiful in their absence. your beauty is not dependent on who values you for it.
Coming back to this topic of that man who advised telling your children to disregard their childless aunties and uncles, because it’s actually making me very angry.
I have many aunts and uncles.
Most have children of their own.
My childless aunt has been there since I was born and since before I was born.
Yes I have my parents and grandparents, but my childhood memories are also full of this particular aunt.
My memory holds every moment she fed me, read to me, played with me, picked me up from school, cleaned my wounds, held me as I cried.
I remember her breaking down in tears when a strange puppy I tried to play with bit me, and she rushed me knowing she had to get me the rabies vaccination immediately to save my life.
I remember her coming to as many of my boarding school visiting days, her poring over my report cards, her buying me gifts when I did well in school, and her encouraging me when I failed.
I remember staying in her house countless times without care, and her never asking me to do anything, meanwhile I have stayed with some aunts who had children who tried to treat me like a servant.
I remember her paying my hospital bills without calculating, ignoring whether she would later settle it with my parents or not.
When I was at college my childless aunt sent me money not just my parents, and she paid thousands of dollars for me to have the kind of summer holidays where I traveled and stayed in nice places.
In every storm of my life, my childless aunt has stood unfailingly by me.
I can recount a lifetime of my childless aunt’s care, love, time spent, money spent, energy spent in the billions of moments it took to raise me from my first breath in this world to the current moment.
If I don’t recognise and appreciate my Mother’s sister and how from the moment I was born she treated me as her own child, I am no better than an animal.
All gods and goddesses, known and unknown, forbid you ungrateful, narcissistic, and psychopathic people who hate women so much, you see them as breeding stock, so if they don’t produce their own child, you count them as worthless.
Childless people contribute immensely in the upbringing of children, and they invest in the future generation.
Especially childless women who are the unsung Aunts of the world.
Any attempt to erase their contributions will be fought to the bitter end by all the children they raised.
This American woman has converted to Islam and is preparing to move to Afghanistan to be with her Muslim husband who she has met only once, because he was refused a US green card to move to America to be with her.
She’s ignoring everyone in her comments warning her not to get on the plane, saying her husband will protect and provide for her, and that he promised her nothing bad will happen, and she intends to go ahead with moving to Afghanistan.
The most important thing this boy said in this video was:
“Make them bring am, make we kill am for here now now now”
I don’t even care that the police didn’t arrest the criminal.
This is that thing I was saying about how poor Nigerians are really dangerous.
Their children are killers and have seen so much killing and murder and participated so much, they’re very casual about murdering people and openly planning to murder people.
It’s ironic this boy is rightfully reporting a wrongdoing of the police but you’re in just as much danger around this child or a group of children like him as you are around the criminal he’s complaining about.
And this is a national tragedy.
This is a child who has been completely failed by the adults around him.
~ Ego death isn’t optional, it’s something every woman must actively pursue to live a truly successful adult life. The belief that you’re “the exception” rarely ends well.
When I have to use Igbo to tell you something sweet, to tell you how much I love you, to call you brother or sister, to greet you, to express gratitude- regardless of your tribe. It's me telling you that you have touched a deep part of my heart.
This’ why I like mine a bit ‘gay’ (whatever this means). Doesn’t mind having a fan, an umbrella, skincare. Does pedicure and manicure. Uses gym gloves…you know.
Sometimes that’s one of the ways I know you like yourself.
i’m not even saying that as a Vibe…. i really think identifying too hard with victimhood when you get hurt in relationships can make you lose your sense of Integrity and start being weird
This’ why I like mine a bit ‘gay’ (whatever this means). Doesn’t mind having a fan, an umbrella, skincare. Does pedicure and manicure. Uses gym gloves…you know.
Sometimes that’s one of the ways I know you like yourself.
Not FOUR men asking me if they can use my fan at the function yesterday . When i asked them whyrget didn’t just theirs, one of them said “it’s for women, it’s okay to use yours as long as it doesn’t belong to me” 😭