I never imagined I would be making this kind of plea.
My wife, Dasola, went in for a Caesarean Section to deliver our baby, but what should have been the happiest moment of our lives suddenly became a fight for survival.
She developed severe sepsis after surgery, leading to
@BeejayofIB@Hybrid_Ola There’s recent report from centre for the promotion of private enterprise (CPPE) that says MSMEs lose 5-10 trillion Naira annually due to employee fraud
Normalize telling boys the stories of what women in the family went through. Boys seem to hear "grandma makes the best tortillas" while daughters hear "grandma was married at 14." Tell the boys the cost of their favorite meals, too.
The Wizkid documentary explained what just happened, but we're still too slow to catch up with the knowledge it shared.
I keep seeing posts claiming Tyla isn’t an Afrobeats artist. Why? Because she’s not Nigerian?
What do we think “Afrobeats” is?
For most Nigerians, Afrobeats is simply the name for contemporary Nigerian music.
For the West, it’s a convenient tag to cover the entire African continent—making it feel small, like one country producing cute music.
That was the intention. The narrative consistently pushed about “Africa” is that it’s small. They may not say it outright, but the maps, articles, and history they created all reinforce it. Subconsciously, it has made us feel small—even among ourselves. We rarely see anything we do as enough.
This isn’t about playing the victim; it’s about clearing things up.
Both the Nigerians who believe Afrobeats exists only for their music and the West that treats “Afrobeats” as a fitting label for a continent of 1.55 billion people across 54 nations are wrong.
You don’t see the best amapiano tracks at the Grammys, do you? That’s because there’s no need to recognise other African genres. Just dump everything under one name.
Newsflash: Africans are humans. They have ears, voices, and the ability to be inspired.
There’s so much incorporation in the music, and “Afrobeats” doesn’t even make sense because Africans are simply making music. It could be R&B, hip-hop, pop, electronic, rock, or alternative. Just because it’s sung with an African accent or features an African name doesn’t make it an “Afrobeats record” as the West labels it.
Just because there’s Igbo or Yoruba in the lyrics doesn’t make it exclusively a Nigerian song, as many Nigerians assume.
Just because a native language is used shouldn’t limit these songs from reaching their true global destination as music for everyone. If the record is good, nominate it in Record of the Year.
If you want to highlight the artist’s region, let them speak about it when they collect their award on the main stage for the whole world to hear and learn from.
The real purpose was to create a category where any sound—no matter how big, culturally significant, or globally embraced—gets boxed in as long as it isn’t from the West. That’s what this “Afrobeats” everyone fights over truly is. That’s the truth.
She is very crazy for saying this. So nothing about Seun who started it ?
I think there is something really cynical and cunning about this whole thing.
They came for Wizkid unnecessarily, in what looks like a coordinated attack, using the Seun guy as a point man. Wizkid has shown in the past that he revered Fela and acknowledged his influence. Yes, if today his fans say he is bigger or whatever, you can argue and may not agree, but that’s the way life is.
There are still people in the older generation who saw Pele and Maradona play football who will never agree that Messi is the best of all time. (I think Messi is, and I like Maradona and Pele), but that’s just the way the world is.
Seun talks too much, and I feel he is leading an anger about something, muddling the issue and matter to find anything that sticks in order to nail Wizkid.
What I find really interesting about Wizkid’s artistry is the longevity he has had.
Fela had cultural influence, and his music resonated with radicals and students in urban centres at the time. People in rural Nigeria didn’t give a hoot about him while he was alive. They had other heroes in other musicians. Dayo Adeneye once told me personally that When Sunny Ade released Synchro System in 1983, it was the first pop album to be recorded by an African musician in London and went on to be the first musician from Nigeria to be nominated for a Grammy.
Yeah, the evidence is there. As a matter of fact, Fela became extremely famous after he died. He wasn’t this famous when he was alive. Fela was a revolutionary hero in the mood of Gani Fawehinmi and came from a prestigious family who gave him everything and were prominent in Nigeria. But he is not God! Fans can have any comparison they want to have, and you can argue and make counter points without dragging an artiste in a toxic and stupid way.
My wife stopped fighting with me in 2018.
I thought we'd finally figured it out.
No more arguments about the dishes. No more sighing when I forgot something. No more asking me to help with things I should've noticed myself.
Peace.
That's what I called it.
For two years I lived in that silence thinking we'd reached some kind of marital maturity.
Then one night—11 PM, night before Thanksgiving—I found her crying in the kitchen.
Making pie crust from scratch because my mother had made a comment the year before about store-bought being "fine, I guess."
I asked what was wrong.
She looked at me like I was a stranger.
"Nothing."
That's when I realized:
She hadn't stopped fighting because things were better.
She stopped fighting because she stopped believing I would ever change.
The silence wasn't peace.
It was resignation.
She'd built her entire life around my absence…while I was still in the house. Eating the food she cooked. Sleeping in the bed she made. Parenting the kids she was raising.
And I called it partnership because I brought home a paycheck.
Most men don't have a marriage problem.
They have an absence problem.
Their wives stopped asking because asking hurt too much.
So they carry it alone. The meals. The schedules. The mental load. The holidays.
And we sit on the couch checking our phones thinking "at least we're not fighting anymore."
Brother, fighting would be better.
Anger means she still believes you could change.
Silence means she made peace with the fact that you won't.
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving.
Your wife is going to wake up before you. Start cooking while you sleep. Manage the chaos while you watch the parade. Clean up while you digest.
Unless you don't let her.
I wrote the protocol for coming home to a marriage you've been absent from.
The 5 stages of wifely resignation.
Why "I'll do better" doesn't work anymore.
The 30-day silent rebuilding system.
The conversation she needs to hear.
It's called "When She Stopped Asking."
Link below if you want it.
But whether you buy it or not—wake up first tomorrow.
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That boy is my 3 year old nephew that has been missing since yesterday evening. Last seen was about 6pm on Thursday at Matogun Community, Akute axis.
Please help me repost till we find him.