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mantan akun bucin brightwin.

[🌱 @vaetrichore]

from this to this

[ʚɞ @_bybenigna]

watch and learn

[໊ @xoeeie]

nobody talks about how peaceful your life gets, when you're with a really good partner whose only mission is to make your life better.

[𐙚⋆ @voidwithverses]

“The same God that doesn't answer your prayers right away, is the same God that doesn't punish you right after you sin.”

— Rumi

[• @Al__Quraan]

“Your death will come on an ordinary day, in the middle of unfinished plans, and the world will continue without you.”

[♡ @Shukri_ibm]

So, respect yourself, honour yourself, and never ever beg anyone to stay.

Also, never shrink yourself for someone to stay.

[C @cyrusamanya]

I didn’t even know we could use “btw” like this😭

[En Júpiter @En_jupiter_]

“Mi papá solía enfadarse tanto cada vez que mi mamá compraba una taza (las colecciona) y su nuevo novio literalmente le construyó una pared para mostrar su colección, esta es la razón por la que no hay que conformarnos con menos de lo que merecemos”

[. @deityofnightt]

the more scary side of communication, "I was unfair to you, I ignored your feelings, I admit it. I'm not ready to lose you, so I want to fix it, I'm open to change." it takes courage to have this conversation, most people even avoid saying it, but if you don't really want to lose someone, you do it.

[Kikiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii @kikiriskiana]

Pindah ke Denmark. Mulai sekolah dari awal. Dari sekolah bahasa Denmark, kejar paket setara 9th grade, sekolah perkantoran, dan sekarang kepikiran lanjut sekolah finance, meskipun usia 40+. Karena pendidikan di sini gratis sampe universitas, bahkan dapat uang saku tiap bulan.

[✥ @qamrlight]

subhana rabbiyal ala, subhana rabbiyal ala, subhana rabbiyal ala

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

According to psychology, we rarely lose our temper with the people who deserve it. We snap at the ones who love us enough to forgive us.

[‏ً @itsnwts]

If you don’t actively shape the life you desire each day. You’ll eventually wake up to find that years have slipped by unnoticed.

[Shubhvani @shubhvanii]

Neverrrrrrrrrrrr forget the person who taught you the work when you were new and clueless.

Many people can hire you, but only a few will teach you with patience, protect you when you make mistakes, and say, "Don't worry, you learn."

That person deserves lifelong respect.

[Lisa @lisathebeauty1]

i honestly think the most beautiful kind of love is when someone is sure about you, no mixed signals, no confusion, just consistency, effort, and a feeling that they truly want you in their life.

[Debi Friska @debifriskaa]

makin kesini makin sadar, relationship tuh bukan cuma soal bucin-bucinan cringe.we need a partner yang bisa grow bareng, diajak deeptalk tanpa vibes awkward, tuker pikiran tanpa ego war, saling backup di good and bad days sekalipun, ngobrolin anything from dream to darkest fears

[Griffin @griffinarks]

bercerita itu obat.
mendengarkan itu menguras energi.

jadi, hebatkan orang yg mau dengerin ceritamu tanpa rasa kepo & tanpa rasa menghakimi?
maka dari itu jangan lupa apresiasi orang orang terdekatmu yg mau jadi rumah tanpa adanya drama & toxic, agar kamu bisa pulang lalu sembuh

[Adfiana Anisa @adfiananisa]

Jangan hanya mengutamakan cinta dalam pernikahan,

karena yang disebut di Al-Qur’an itu sakinah (ketenangan hati), mawaddah (kasih sayang), warahmah (perhatian, empati). Karena cinta bisa timbul dan hilang, bahkan dimanipulasi. Sedangkan kasih sayang muncul dari kenyamanan dan ketenangan.

Menikahlah dengan orang yang bersamanya sakinah, mawaddah, warahmah engkau dapatkan.

Tapi kalau bisa menikah karena semuanya; tenang, nyaman, empati, kasih sayang, dan ditambah cinta, bahagianya juga akan lebih besar.

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

You’re 35. Someone raises their voice and suddenly you’re 7 years old again, sitting at the kitchen table, trying to disappear. Your brain is literally reverting to the age you were when the original wound happened.

Neuroscientist Joseph LeDoux at NYU found that your brain has a fear shortcut. Sensory information hits your amygdala (the brain’s alarm system) before it ever reaches the part that thinks logically. The alarm fires in about 12 milliseconds. Rational thought takes over 250. In someone carrying old trauma, the alarm wins every time. Your body reacts before your mind even knows what happened.

Bessel van der Kolk’s team put trauma survivors in brain scanners and watched what happens during a flashback. Three things go wrong at once. The amygdala floods the body with stress hormones, preparing you to fight or run. The prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain that says “calm down, you’re safe, this is 2026,” goes quiet. And Broca’s area, the region that lets you put thoughts into words, shuts off entirely. Van der Kolk compared it to having a stroke. Trauma survivors sitting frozen and silent in emergency rooms aren’t choosing not to speak. The brain region for language has gone offline.

The missing piece is the hippocampus. It’s the part of your brain that tags memories with a time and place, filing them as “this happened years ago.” Chronic stress hormones physically shrink it. MRI scans of PTSD patients consistently show this. When your hippocampus can’t do its job, your brain stops distinguishing a 20-year-old memory from something happening right now. That’s why a slamming door in 2026 can put you right back in a room from 1998. Your brain genuinely cannot tell the difference.

The CDC ran the largest study on childhood trauma ever done. 64% of American adults report at least one adverse childhood experience. Those who had four or more were 12 times more likely to attempt suicide, develop depression, or struggle with addiction. The annual cost: $14.1 trillion.

The good news: this isn’t always permanent. A study of PTSD patients found that after treatment, the hippocampus grew back by 4.6%. The part of the brain that files memories as “the past” can be rebuilt.

[Alyn. @linxxxc_]

YaAllah siapapun orangnya nanti, jika dia memang berniat untuk bersamaku, bantu dia dan teguhkan pendiriannya, lancarkan rezekinya, lancarkan semua urusannya dan bantu aku untuk mengubah diriku agar bisa menjadi pasangan yang pantas untuk dirinya.