A grumpy man can control a family without ever raising his voice. He just has to make his displeasure expensive enough. A long silence at dinner. A ruined car ride. Soon, everyone starts pre-adjusting. The kids are told “not now” before they can ask. She chooses the restaurant he likes, the movie he won’t complain through, the route that avoids traffic because traffic makes him unbearable. This is how a household becomes organized around one person’s refusal to regulate themselves.
You want to know why so many women thrive after divorce? Because we finally sleep through the night. Because we don’t walk on eggshells. Because no one’s draining our energy and calling it “marriage.”
Go to that baseball game alone. Treat yourself to that good seat with the perfect view. Make friends with the strangers around you. You won’t regret it. Life is too short to wait for others to do things that will make you happy.
Today my dad told me he still didn’t understand why my mom divorced him 17 years ago. I didn’t think he was serious, but when I realized he was I told him why.
She was tired of being a married single mother. He was a “stay at home dad” yet she would get home after her hour commute and have to make us dinner, clean the house, & do our bedtime routine. She would also get us ready for the day, even if it made her late to work, while he slept in. All while she paid the bills.
This shocked him.
So what happens in November when James Talarico is on pace to beat Ken Paxton and, in a desperate panic, Paxton challenges the same kind of Dallas County ruling and the GOP-controlled Texas Supreme Court pulls the same stunt they pulled tonight?
I don’t ever want to experience an emotionally unavailable, avoidant, nonchalant, low-effort man that refuses to effectively communicate ever again.
Ever.
When a woman has been deeply traumatized by men who initially presented themselves as “nice guys,” she may eventually choose not to start over again. Instead, she plans the rest of her life around solitude—embracing the peace, stability, and self-respect that come with it.
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HEY DUMBURGER. IF YOU FINISHED 2ND GRADE YOU’D KNOW YOU CAN'T LOWER BY 600%. MAX IS 100%. I.E. YOUR APPROVAL DROPPED BY 100%. YOUR CANKLES GREW BY 100%. YOU'RE 100% IN THE EPSTEIN FILES. YOUR SPEECH WAS 100% LOCO. YOU'RE 100% SCUMMIER & DUMBER THAN ME. --GCN (C IS FOR CALCULUS.)