“He has childhood trauma.” So do I.
“He’s under a lot of pressure at work.” So am I.
“He’s just overwhelmed.” Me too.
The only difference is that we excuse men’s behavior, and shame women for not carrying it.
HOT TAKE: Someone said “this is the first time in history women are dating men for their character. And that's why no one is dating.” and she was right.
Workdays SHOULD be 10am-3pm or 9am-2pm. There's no reason for people to spend most of their lives at work.
Let people go home and have time for their families, partners, friends, and rest. That's why everyone is so miserable today.
Somewhere in your 20s or 30s you’ll get the opportunity to rebuild your life after a negative loop, heal from what broke you, live in your own space, reconnect with your discipline, and learn to love yourself again. It’s very important that you see that journey through.
As a parent you shouldn't be telling your kids that you sacrificed your life for them, It’s hurtful and manipulative, and it’s not true. You chose to have your kids and nobody forced you to have them. Taking care of them is your responsibility.
As a woman, I don't want financial independence just for money. I want it so no one else ever gets to decide my life for me. I'm tired of the feeling that someone else's support comes with conditions, that my choices have to fit into someone else's comfort. I want to earn my own space, my own voice, my own freedom not to prove anything to the world, but to feel safe inside my own life. Maybe independence isn't about being strong all the time, maybe it's just about knowing that no one has the power to take away your choices again..
Btw in your 20’s and 30’s you’ll start rediscovering the niche interests and hobbies you had as a kid. It’s very important you revisit them. Your younger self was actually on to something
Having solid friends matters. I don't mean the ones who just hype your pics or drop heart emojis. I'm talking about the people who show up when things get awkward, heavy, and uncomfortable. The friends who don't disappear when life gets messy, who sit with you through the rough moments, tell you the truth, and stay even when it's not fun or convenient. That's real friendship.