@carter_pig89049@Dancr200 when a loved one of mine died, i kissed their picture. im not kissing the picture, im kissing the person in the picture. it is the same with icons.
for your second point, read Matthew 15:11
"Love every man in spite of his falling into sin. Never mind the sins, but remember that the foundation of the man is the same--the image of God" - St John of Kronstadt.
"Our life & our death is with our neighbor" - Abba Anthony