Maturity taught me that not every woman is a Proverbs 31 woman. And that’s okay!
Some are Deborahs: Called to lead, to speak boldly, and to stand on the front lines.
Some are Ruths: Faithful in quiet places, steady when no one is watching.
Some are Esthers: Positioned for influence, courage rising at the exact moment it’s needed.
Some are Marys: Chosen for surrender, carrying purpose before understanding.
Some are Hannahs: Shaped by prayer, strengthened through waiting and tears.
You should have things you don't do, places you don't go to, substances you don't take, words you don't say!
By all means, have Principles and Standards.
Never teach a man how to be your man. Don't ask him for anything. Not a date. Not flowers. Not clingy texts. Not morning calls. Not time. Not affection. When a man truly wants you,he moves different on his own. Life's too short to be waiting for someone to act right!
Love after 25 is different. You’re not looking for sparks. You’re looking for stability, kindness and shared goals. You’ve outgrown games and butterflies. You’re craving peace, emotional safety, and someone whose future aligns with yours.
I'll give married guys some free advice...
Chase your wife around the house. You turn something on in her. You guys become children for just that 4 minutes running around. 😉
Lift her off the ground. It says something to her mind. 😉
But if you want to keep the spark alive in the middle of a busy life, add these to the list:
Take over the dinner chaos. When she is staring down the pot trying to figure out how to feed everyone, stepping in and saying, "I've got this," or just ordering the Friday night pizza or food so she doesn't have to cook, speaks directly to her soul.
Handle the unsexy logistics.
Give her the gift of absolute silence. Sometimes taking the kids out of the house for two hours so she can just exist in a quiet room without anyone needing anything from her.
Flirt with her during the ordinary moments. A wink across the room while you are both cleaning up the kitchen reminds her that underneath the heavy titles of "Mom" and "Dad," you are still just two people crazy about each other.
Notice the invisible labor. Thank her for remembering the scheduling, the grocery, and all the behind the scenes magic that keeps the house running. It bridges the gap and silently says, "I see exactly how hard you work for us."
The movie romance is great, but the trenches of everyday life are where the real connection happens.
Show up for her there.
My red flag is that if you don't talk to me, I won't talk to you either. But not because I don't want to talk to you, but because I think if you don't want to talk to me, I should give you space so I don't bother you