Being a good person does not mean that you'll need to set yourself on fire to keep people warm. Why trying so much to please everyone that never bring you the approval of being belong? As much as you want to, you'll never able to please everyone, so you might as well stop trying.
And for the children, just carry on; always love your family, continue to nurture your bond with them because when you grow older, you might miss some of the important memories and moments of life with your family.
Seeing this Family Island picture from season 1 to season 2 of Inside Out, gave me a realization. As we grow older, our lives become more independent; we develop our own identities, personalities, and interests, which can sometimes lead to fewer emotional bonds with our families.
So, if you still have a great relationship and an open bond with your family, you are so lucky that there is a home that gives you light wherever it takes you.