Enforcement of monetary judgment by Garnishee appears to be the order of the day and less stressful, until it's time to enforce against government agencies, only to meet with bottlenecks of consent of the AG and other sundry issues of law, including appeals...
Good day to this dear brother, May Allah calm his heart and clear his confusion. It takes courage for a man to admit confusion before marriage, and that already shows responsibility and possibly not weakness.
First, I will say this gently and clearly,
our opinions can only be a fraction of what the real solution might be. Matters of marriage, especially when emotions are involved, are not best concluded through social media reactions or haste.
Marriage in Islam is too sacred to be built on assumptions, and too serious to be entered with unresolved fear.
Looking at this with fairness and wisdom;
What happened truly shook him, and that is understandable. Seeing something that touches trust will naturally disturb the heart.
However, a few important realities must be separated:
1. A game is not a confession. Silence or laughter during a casual game does not automatically equal admission. Many people laugh out of discomfort, embarrassment, or shock, especially in group settings.
2. Friends' perceptions are not divine knowledge. Even long-term friends do not fully know the heart of a person. Sometimes friends joke based on personality traits, playfulness, sociability, or past jokes, and always not a moral character.
3. Islam does not judge people by suspicion.
Allah warns us clearly:
"O you who believe, avoid much suspicion. Indeed, some suspicion is sin." Qur'an 49:12
Suspicion becomes dangerous when it starts rewriting the past and poisoning the future without clear proof.
That means, his feelings should not be dismissed either.
Marriage is not something to enter while your heart is unsettled. Fear, once buried, does not disappear, it grows.
This situation is therefore not about canceling a wedding or rushing into it, but about seeking conviction before marriage, because after marriage, issues become heavier.
From a place of my religion understanding, humanity, and sincere concern, I will say;
He should not make a decision while emotionally overwhelmed. Fear makes the heart exaggerate and misinterpret.
He should have a calm, honest, non-accusatory conversation with her.
Not to interrogate, but to understand her values, boundaries, and understanding of loyalty in marriage.
Also, he should observe her response beyond tears. Not just apologies, but maturity, accountability, and reassurance through words and actions.
He should involve wise elders if confusion remains. Islam encourages premarital issues to be settled through guidance, parents, respected elders, or trusted religious counselors who seek goodness, and not drama.
This is exactly why families exist, not only for celebration, but for direction.
Thus, to this dear brother,
He should not marry because "everything has been planned."
And should not cancel because "a video disturbed him."
Marriage should be entered with conviction, peace, and conviction, and not pressure, fear, or embarrassment.
If she is innocent, truth will stand firm. If there are concerns, wisdom will uncover them gently, and not through suspicion, but through guidance.
He should also make du'a, pray istikharah sincerely, and seek counsel from those who fear Allah and love justice.
Allah does not confuse His servants, He guides them when they seek Him sincerely.
May Allah grant him a marriage built on trust, tranquility, and righteousness, whether with her or by His better decree. May Allah be pleased with him and everyone of us.
And Allah knows best.
This is very absurd, Ladies generally can't wait to get baby out, Never heard or seen anyone holding on to pregnancy especially in 3rd trimester, Let them check Her Mental Health because something isn't adding up. I wish Her well
During my NYSC days, I joined my Ex- boss law firm as a new wig. I had very few responsibilities, though I was the only young wig in the law firm. The counsel who was there before me was said to have gone for his masters abroad.
I used to appear in court with my ex principal, and whenever documents were to be filed, he prepared them, and the secretary, Mummy Firdaws, as she was fondly called, handled the filing.
With so much free time within the first 4 months of resumption, I took a remote writing job( the 33k nysc allowance and 20k salary of my boss wouldn't suffice me. 😆🤣). Whenever the firm needed an adjournment because a document was not ready or my boss was busy, I was often sent with a Senior who was a friend of my boss to take a date. I would spend many nights rehearsing convincing excuses for the court instead of sleeping.
It was on the day I appeared at the High Court, Ilorin solely with the intention to secure an adjournment and met a Senior Advocate of Nigeria named Musbau Adetumbi SAN with 7 young lawyers appearing with him representing the opposing party that I decided that anytime a document needed to be filed or a procedural step taken, I would draft it myself and submit it for vetting. I also stopped the online work and committed fully to learning law practice. I wanted more than the usual and wanted to get involved in trial. That decision sharpened my drafting skills, built my confidence, and accelerated my growth.
I often wondered what my career would have looked like if I had remained comfortable and avoided responsibility.
Dear young wig in active litigation, you may find yourself in a law firm where you are pampered: little work, no pressure, plenty of time for your phone and movies. You may think you are favoured. In truth, you may be quietly setting yourself up for failure.
One day, you will be senior by age but junior in experience. The Bench will expect competence, not excuses. By then, no one will ask about your principal or your pay. Younger lawyers will look up to you for mentorship, and “falling hand” will not be an option. If you fail to learn early, embarrassment becomes frequent, and the choice narrows to learning the hard way or leaving the profession.
Law is a profession learned by doing. You must be intentional about your growth. The earlier you master the rudiments of practice, the greater your value. Make hay while the sun shines.
As we close for the year and resume in 2026, endeavour to choose responsibility over comfort and growth over ease. Let this forthcoming year move you one step closer to the lawyer you ought to become. Law practice sweet o, that one for na lawyer who knows his onions and will always deliver!!!
Rahma cares ✍️
Her estate 💯
In Re: Abdullahi (2018) 14 NWLR (Pt. 1639) 272
In this novel case, the Supreme Court held that although the legal principle is that a personal right of action dies with the person which is summed up in the Latina maxim “actio personalis moritur cum persona”, but where there is an alleged injury to the estate of a deceased appellant in a criminal case, the court will invoke the principle of “ubi jus ibi remedium” to remedy the injury. Thus, the Supreme Court allowed the applicants to be substituted for their late husband and father in the case, to enable them challenge the decision of the Court of Appeal which affected the property of the deceased, even though it is a criminal matter.
For all intents and purposes, that resignation letter from the PDP cannot stand. The office of a governor of a state is apolitical and, as such, cannot resign from being a member of a political party. Nothing can stand on nothing.....
That you own social media accounts doesn't give you the right to talk down on anybody, let alone a judge, using your (burner) account.
That a case ended up in a way that doesn't appeal to your emotions still doesn't give you that right. You APPEAL!
Well let me educate you.The police's decision to enforce the policy despite knowing about the pending suit could be seen as contemptuous, as it may undermine the court's authority and potentially prejudice the case. I hope your Legal Dept advises you appropriately.
@SirJarus Justice Fati Lami Abubakar went back to state judiciary as a judge until her retirement as the chief judge of Niger state. She was also very active, humble and punctual in office.
She went to Villa as a judge and came back to her office as a judge.