@konkonxo Autism can be so disabling that people don’t have the ability to speak. You think it’s genuinely impossible for any of us to take these phrases literally?
@WIP_Abandoned Let’s think for a second and ask that again. Do autistic people, who are disABLED in this specific way, not have the ABILITY to just go “oh wait, that’s silly!”? I think you can answer that question yourself
Not making excuses but a lot of times ppl with BPD are actually pretty chill when they’re not around people who constantly trigger them and make them feel crazy.
@072_saramiel Oh yeah I think I had an interaction directly with her that went about as well as you can imagine and a lot of my tumblr posts about her are still getting notes, that was a big time for me on transmasc tumblr
I don’t wanna be the friend that’s too woke but the fact this is in comic form where you’re directed to see one party as a Person who is Distressed and the other as a lifeless stand in upsetting the other party is Meaningful in a way that is not great
This kind of idiot is exactly why as a sex repulsed asexual I have to just deal because I’d rather be uncomfortable than say some dumb regressive shit like this
Using tme as a noun is such a huge tell that you are in fact someone who does not use this term as it’s originally meant to be used and instead use it as a pejorative meant to silence and strip people of their experiences when they make you mad
@hitlerofcolor@gambitbussie well unlike trans men there aren't alot of cis men lumping themselves into discussions about transmisogyny or claim that they also experience trans misogyny. in the rare cases when they do they're also called tmes.
Buddy have you tried asking people pleasers what they want, to take a stance, to provide their own input etc.? It's fucking impossible.
People pleasers "put others first" without actually communicating or compromising and then "snap" even if you begged them to sacrifice less
And all of this isn’t even mentioning that the group most devoted to using this framework extremely transparently uses it just like agab terminology to segregate trans experience based on what our genitals are because tme is almost exclusively applied to trans men in practice
No we don’t like it because it’s a useless out of touch framework that only serves to ostracize other minorities. Nobody is exempt from transmisogyny because that’s not how bigotry works
I think a lot of people who dislike TME vs TMA as a framing do so because they think of being more oppressed as a sign of nobility and a form of social privilege which trans women are unduly trying to claim.
Like, no, you're actually LUCKY if you're TME, I'd love to be TME
It’s a bad framework because it explicitly denies intersectionality and creates hard boxes that don’t exist in real life. Transmisogyny is not limited to people who say “I am a trans woman” which makes “tma” a completely useless label because everyone is potentially tma
Sorry, trans women are not en masse going to college for comp sci degrees and then jerking off all day instead of having jobs and trans men are not en masse going to medical school and becoming doctors????? Deranged level of transphobic caricature toward both sides today
There couldn’t be a more “I’ve never met a trans person in real life” post. I’ve never met a trans person irl, man woman or nb, that wasn’t a dangerously impoverished poor retail or food service worker like most of us tend to be
trans man jobs in 2026:
- doctor
- teacher
- therapist
trans woman jobs in 2026:
- musician (homeless)
- sex worker (homeless)
- software engineer (rejected 800 times so she just lives with her parents and jerks off in her room all day)
- untalented (homeless)
“Are you communicating these issues” to people who are notably impossible to communicate with? What a genius idea surely nobody has ever desired to communicate with a people pleaser or an avoidant! We actually all love the way they endlessly dodge accountability!
people are so weird on here man, first it was avoidant, now its people pleasers. are you all like. communicating these issues to people in your life instead of projecting these things onto strangers?