I’ve been in this fandom 14 years. If I’ve learned anything it’s this:
Choose joy, build your community, call out people who are legitimately dangerous or harmful. Let everything else go.
You’ll find this fandom much more enjoyable, I promise.
@DarkynsInferno Exactly! i think this is a great opportunity to play into the trend by making "Flea and Tick prevention" badges or flea collars, so people can "participate" in a way that makes them feel comfortable.
With the whole furry flea controversy, instead of outright banning putting fleas on people, I feel like those who are ok with getting fleas and such could maybe wear one of those consent badges for it?
So people who don't want to participate aren't forced into it
like no I don't hate the flea trend, I ultimately don't really care, but it takes literally nothing to just ask. why is any of this any kind of drama. atp anyone riding super hard against the concept of asking is a weirdo idc
It doesn't "ruin the trend" to just fucking ask if you can give someone a flea btw. If you people were actually whimsical you could play it up and make asking part of the fun, but you aren't actually that whimsical at all
@flamebleats like I was really excited about it when someone clipped one on my ear (I think it was while I was at a panel?) and it's fun but maybe don't come that close to a strangers sensitive areas like that idk
@flamebleats my issue with it was purely that two different people attached one to right by the base of my tail. i didn't like the idea that someone on multiple occasions came that close to my ass without me knowing. i think the trend is fun and cute but that weirded me out.
@sycawah This was my first con fursuiting and a couple people with cameras came up to my friend and I and I really liked it! as long as they were respectful and asked politely and I wasn't like visibly trying to take a break I didn't mind at all :)
i will say I think the flea trend is fun and silly and cute but I got "flea-d" .... UNCOMFORTABLY close to the base of my tail while I was wearing my whole head. I had hella real estate on my head and you put one on my butt???? oooookay
Note that I did not end up giving anyone any of these bc of the discourse. i will have them with me if you'd like one but I will not put them on people without asking!
@dragonsapphic I have a bunch of different little clips made for IFC ("cooties," "the cheese touch," fleas, etc) but I was wondering what the etiquette was for it so ty!! i wouldn't have the boldness/audacity to clip them on someone without them asking anyway tbh 😭
pretty much done now. a little insecure that the hairstyle doesn't *technically* match her current ref sheet, but I'm ngl I just didn't like the way the side bang piece looked + the back hair would have been really heavy. it matches her old ref sheet so idrc ig
Tim Curry -- the legendary film and TV actor best known for playing Dr. Frank-N-Furter in the cult classic "The Rocky Horror Picture Show" -- has died 🕊️
Btw Dolly Parton was a fierce advocate for trans people, if you are tore up about her departure and you’re transphobic please know she likely wouldn’t have liked you