I got a call from my daughter’s high school principal today. He said she’d been caught operating an “unauthorized commercial enterprise” out of the girls’ locker room. My stomach DROPPED. I left work immediately, already imagining the worst: Drugs. Vapes. Stolen stuff. Some TikTok side hustle gone wrong. By the time I got to the school, I was preparing myself for lawyers, suspension, maybe even police involvement. I walk into the principal’s office….…and my daughter is sitting there quietly with a spiral notebook full of spreadsheets. Not cash. Not customer lists. Spreadsheets. Turns out, she’d noticed some girls at school were quietly struggling: • no money for feminine hygiene products • no winter jackets • wearing the same clothes every week after budget cuts hit families hard So she started her own underground support network. She collected donated jackets, hygiene products, gloves, and clothes from wealthier neighborhoods.
Then she cataloged everything by size and need in her notebook like a tiny operations manager. And from her gym locker, she distributed items discreetly to students who needed them — no embarrassment, no announcements, no attention. The principal wasn’t calling because she was in trouble. He called because the school found out… and wanted my permission to turn her “illegal locker room business” into an official school charity program.
I thought I was driving to the biggest parenting nightmare of my life. Instead, I walked into one of the proudest moments I’ve ever had as a parent.
I fell asleep on the couch accidentally last night and woke up at like 2AM confused because I was suddenly under a blanket.
This man had quietly turned off the TV, plugged my phone in, put water on the table beside me, and covered me up without waking me.
And when I got up to go to bed, I realized he had already locked the doors, cleaned the kitchen, and packed my lunch for work because he knew I had an early morning.
He never mentioned any of it.
That’s the thing I keep noticing about genuinely caring people.
They don’t always love you loudly. Sometimes they love you in tiny invisible ways that make your life softer when you aren’t paying attention.
Whoever came up with the phrase cheap is expensive certainly never fueled at Astrol Petrol Station.
1. It is 100% Kenyan, founded in 2000 by the late Thayu Kamal Kabugi and is now run by the son, James Mwangi.
2. They not only own the land their stations are built on to cut costs but also manage their stations directly rather than franchising.
3. Their fuel contains a high 91 PON rating, which is higher than the premium fuels around, including V-Power.
4. They are not only 2 - 7 shillings cheaper but also never hoard fuel whenever there are shortages.
We don’t appreciate such companies enough
you don't realize how much being left out has effected you until you realize you're scared to participate in anything without someone inviting you to join in
I paid extra for a window seat.
Not just for the view, but because I like having space, something to lean on, a sense of control.
A couple came up to me mid-boarding, smiling like I was already obligated.
“Would you mind switching so we can sit together?”
The seat they offered? Middle. Between two men.
So basically:
give up my comfort, my safety, my choice… so they can be comfortable.
And somehow I’m the problem if I say no.
They call it a small favor.
I call it how people expect women to inconvenience themselves to keep others happy.
I kept my seat and for once, I didn’t make myself smaller so someone else could feel bigger.
1. Men know exactly what they are doing. Always remember that.
2. It is not your responsibility to change a man. In fact, you cannot change a man, but you can change the man. Read that again.
3. Men will treat you based on how they feel about you and how you carry yourself. If he’s not treating you with care, he doesn’t like you. Don’t make excuses for him.
4. No man can go a day without talking to a woman he is in love with.
5. An inconsistent man doesn’t like you. Only showing up when it is convenient for him is a red flag 🚩
6. There is no such thing as a nonchalant man. That man doesn’t like you. He’s “chalanting” elsewhere.
7. If a man cheats on you and you find out, and instead of leaving the relationship you choose to stay, he will start seeing you as a foól.
8. Your self-respect must be greater than your feelings and libido. Do not ever beg a man to love you. Begging is disgusting.
9. Men are very thoughtful when they are in love. They make time, plan things, and put effort where their heart is. A low-effort man doesn’t like you.
10. The highest form of love is consideration. Any man who doesn’t consider you, how his actions make you feel, or how to make your life easier within his capacity doesn’t like you. Walk away.
11. Lastly, you accept the love you think you deserve. However a man treats you, if you stay, you are a willing participant, not a victim. If you think you deserve better, you know exactly what to do.