i've shifted away from the "always put yourself first," and moved into "remember yourself always." there will be moments when situations ask you to consider more than just yourself. but you can always remember and take care of you.
i am obsessed with the concept of collapsing timelines. like what do you mean your entire life can change in 6 months because of one decision, one person, one opportunity, one random yes??? you are literally one plot twist away from a completely different life.
if there's one thing i have learned from the women before me, it is not to make huge life altering sacrifices for men. They do not deserve such loyalty and commitment
Sometimes “locking in” looks like sitting in the sun and remembering that your life is also meant to be lived, not just optimized, monetized, and turned into proof that you’re worthy.
Is anyone else ever genuinely shocked when you find out you have an impact on someone's life? A coworker can be like "I've missed seeing you" and I'm just like "???? you?? missed me????? My presence has an effect on your daily experience???? i affect things??? What???"
I really want everyone to find people and spaces where they're cared for deeply. Not merely performative gestures and speeches for social media, but genuine friendship, companionship, and love that doesn't require you to do anything but be authentic and grow.
Stop getting so emotionally attached and enjoy experiences with a person. Be friends. Be a moment in time. Be a memory. You don't have to fall madly in love with everyone who comes your way. Just enjoy their presence for your moment together.