Bejay

Family of four. Twin girls. Mum and dad writing about family life, personal growth, financial freedom, and chasing big dreams. ✈️ 🏡 🌊

[Bejay @wearebejay]

👨‍👩‍👧‍👧 | Welcome to our family adventure! Meet our lively quartet — a stay-at-home mum, tech dad, and our adorable little twin girls. Join us on this rollercoaster of parenting where we share heartwarming moments and hilarious escapades of raising twins.

We are more than just parents; we are dreamers on a quest for financial independence and a fulfilling lifestyle. No more waiting for weekends and those five weeks a year - we are looking for joy in every day. Plus, we are always exploring ways to grow as individuals, and as a family. Let’s share our stories and get inspired together! Cheers, Be & Jay.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

@RyanHoliday Hi Ryan, my mum has struggled with finding a purpose and happiness in her late 50s. She is letting things outside her control affect her well being. Which of your books should we send her as a gift? Thank you.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

Learning how to struggle well.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

Feeling the May vibes in the air. Portugal is a wonderful place to slow down and recharge the batteries.

We dived right into the easy and simple lifestyle people seem to embrace down here.

And a new travel takeaway: it’s way easier to travel with 2 yo than it is to travel with 1 yo!

[Bejay @wearebejay]

@itscristabraun That's a very good point!

We see that every day, and what worries me a lot is how little people care about the place they live. There's no respect for plants, animals, public spaces, etc.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

March was tough. There's a part of me that wishes to simply erase it from the calendar, to pretend it never happened. Yet, the other part recognizes the value in every experience, no matter how difficult.

What others might easily overlook, we found really challenging.

Dealing with three rounds of illness with two babies drained all our energy.

We were constantly running on empty, going through the motions of daily life without truly living it or doing anything extra, like opening the X app.

Happy to be back!

[Bejay @wearebejay]

“You can do anything, but not everything.”

— David Allen

[Bejay @wearebejay]

Begin by dealing with the task you like the least on your to-do list.

[Josh Spector @jspector]

The secret to productivity?

Do what you avoid.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

Little Mancunians 🤍

[Bejay @wearebejay]

In today's globalised world, the question "Where are you from?" often leads to an internal dilemma.

Many people live abroad, grow up in countries different from their place of birth, or hold multiple citizenships. This can make it challenging to give a simple answer to what may seem like a straightforward question.

Until recently, we would have said we are from Czechia, but over time, our sense of identity has changed. While Czechia will always hold a special place in our hearts, filled with memories of family and old friends, our life is now in England. Our daughters are British, and I've become a British citizen too.

Even though my accent still reveals my origins, I feel more British than Czech these days. Does that mean I should think of myself as British now?

Moving to a new country brings up even more questions. In that situation, what's the best answer when someone asks us "Where are you from?"

These questions make me realise that maybe our traditional ideas of identity are too narrow. Should we only define ourselves by where we were born or hold citizenship, or is there a broader way to think about it?

[Bejay @wearebejay]

We can have it all, just not everything at the same time.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

We deserve the consequences of our actions.

And it's up to us to face them.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

@LohanGoose I know, I know...You asked a very hard question 😃

[Bejay @wearebejay]

Happy Mother's Day! 🤍

Never mind if you don't celebrate it today - let's all enjoy a warm cup of coffee, an undisturbed moment for ourselves, a long shower, a meal cooked by someone else and loads of cuddles from our kids.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

This question got me thinking, that I don't actually have any role models in my life.

I believe our daughters serve as role models for the type of person I want to be around them.

[Lohan G @LohanGoose]

Who is your role model?

(Direct family members don't count)

[Bejay @wearebejay]

@LohanGoose I think our daughters serve as role models for the type of person I want to be around them.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

@mattquilliec Very well said, Matt.

We are now introducing gratitude to our girls. Just saying it aloud can significantly improve your day.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

Parenting is all about playing the long game and seeing the bigger picture.

That’s why we like to think about every situation, whether good or bad, as a chapter in life. And this mindset can be applied to anything.

When good things happen, it makes you feel thankful and enjoy that part of your life. 

When you face challenges, or your children test limits, you know you just have to wait for another chapter and ideally find a way to enjoy the current one too.

When we embrace this approach, parenting becomes less about the daily struggles and more about appreciating the journey as a whole.

[Bejay @wearebejay]

We live in a world that is slowly transforming in front of our eyes.

We can choose to be part of this change, embrace the uncertainty with optimism and form our unique path.

Or, we can stick to conventional norms, listen to the wisdom of the crowd, and let society safely navigate us through life.

When we look at the statistics of the average life in this world, we know which option we choose: to be brave and live a life that is uniquely and unapologetically ours.