Walaupun saya tak ada anak, tapi saya jaga anak buah saya.
Bila saya marah, mereka akan terus sedih sebab saya tak pernah marah mereka. Bila mereka tegur tanya kenapa marah, saya terus tersedar.
Ada banyak cara kita boleh approach mereka. Kita mesti belajar caranya.
Ada sekali tu, saya menjerit tengking kuat pada anak saya yang sulung, Adam. 🥹
Dia memang ada buat salah yang patut kena marah, tetapi respons saya waktu itu macam terlalu emosional, dan berlebihan daripada sepatutnya 😢
Sampai sekarang saya takkan lupa.
"So far tak ada lagi lawatan aku ke psikiatris."
Jujur cakap, ini sebenarnya kayu ukur yang agak lemah dan tak sepatutnya dijadikan baseline.
Malah, lebih merosakkan sebenarnya, bukan untuk si penghidap, tetapi kepada orang sekeliling dia.
Saya explain kat bawah.
Sikit-sikit 'psychology says'.
Jangan percaya 100% apa yang ada di media sosial. Ilmu psikologi itu luas dan sangat subjektif. Jangan kerana anda dapat sekian-sekian markah dalam survey anda terus beri label. Psikologi tak berfungsi macam tu.
Do your deeds sincerely for the Sake of Almighty Allah. He will reward you. No matter how small it is. Repent sincerely for your misdeeds and He will forgive you. That’s how Merciful He is.
This was what I wrote on my birthday.
The feeling where feeling scared and hurt are ignored despite telling me it is okay.
Feeling lost and defeated by my own mind.
I write stuff like this every single birthday; reminding myself about the truth of life.
Ibu bapa, elakkan cakap macam ayat-ayat ini kepada anak-anak.
Kadang kala memang kita marah, penat, hilang sabar.
Tetapi, bila-bila rasa nak terkeluar ayat begini,
Tahan mulut, Ketap bibir.
Kalau perlu, tinggalkan suasana sekejap.
It’s bleak out there. Our hearts are tired. Our souls feel heavy. Almighty. We trust You and Your Plan even when we don’t understand it. We know there’s wisdom in Your delay and hidden mercy in Your hardship.
Inna lillahi wainna ilaihi raji'un.
Berita sedih kembalinya ke pangkuan Ilahi, @nurareefah setelah bertarung dengan kanser tahap 4.
Almarhumah adalah ikon advokasi kesihatan mental @mecare_my yang inspirasional.
Ikuti kisah inspiratif beliau dalam forum
https://t.co/WgF2pedD6u
Being pious doesn’t give you the right to be harsh to those around you. If at all, you should be gentler, kinder & always willing to extend a helping hand. Be strict with yourself by all means but when it comes to others, a softer approach will often achieve much more.
Learn to see the best in people. No matter how much you disagree, try to find common ground. Spread peace. Quit fighting and bickering. Build bridges. Don’t hate. Don’t look down on anyone. Life’s too short to be doing otherwise.
I came to understand that perhaps Allah sometimes sends isolation and loneliness upon His slave to force him to lose all hope in the creation, and to seek complete comfort in Him, for perhaps He missed His beloved slave’s voice, and wanted to draw him nearer.
https://t.co/4gGfRiST2J
I wrote this 10 years ago, and damn, I was motivated. Not like the shitty me these past few years. Damn it. I should learn back the lessons I learnt during diploma days.