Matchmaking client in NYC, 32, finance, Jewish, medium handsome but funny, all-around good dude.
I think I’ve found his dream match: she’s 26, amazing family, sexy + refined vibe, Jewish obviously, and down to meet him.
I make the introduction, then… he texts me saying she bailed.
I check in with her. She says he asked her to dinner at Crown Alley, and based on that alone, she knows he’s not a fit.
Obviously I feel bad for RJ, and yeah it’s lame to be judgy about first date plans, but…
I actually agree with her on this one.
The problem has nothing to do with wanting a more expensive first date. This woman just knows her vibe, and giant pretzels don’t exactly give “sexy” or “refined.”
RJ either needs to adjust his go-to first date plan, or go after the type of woman who wants to meet over a ham and cheese toasty 🤣
For years women shamed men for having superficial body standards. With dating apps and filters, a women are now exposing the hypocrisy of yrs of shame. How come their standard’s filterable when men’s are not? How is that socially acceptable when men are shamed for theirs
@edgaralandough I could argue the opposite too. Go to the same restaurant, coffee shop, gym consistently & at the same time. Be a regular, notice people and be noticed, and pave the way for connection. If you’re a passerby in every place you go, you’re just an extra
I would argue the opposite. Go to the same restaurant, coffee shop, gym consistently & at the same time. Be a regular, notice people and be noticed, and pave the way for connection. If you’re a passerby in every place you go, you’re just an extra
Going to leave you with this tonight:
The best thing you can do for yourself is actively increase your surface area for luck to hit you.
Go outside, travel more, go to new cafes, museums, events, take a new route home, go for hikes, see cities, countrysides, take your notebook, speak to people, ask questions, start businesses - go on more side quests.
You can literally just do things, and the more you do, the more serendipity and synchronicity will find you.
Night gang.
I never understood people who chose their homes based on job location and their city based on tax benefits. Why not set your roots somewhere, hang your tv, put some artwork, settle in, befriend your neighbors. Jobs are temporary, community is forever