YOU START LOOKING AT PEOPLE DIFFERENT WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT HOW THEY REALLY BEEN TREATING YOU. especially when you realize how much you overlooked just to keep peace, avoid arguments, or keep somebody in your life. But that shyt dead do them how they do you 🫵🏾& Never let tf up
At this stage in my life, if I choose to be in a relationship again, I want something grounded in emotional safety, respect, and consistency.
I want a man who is secure in himself and intentional in how he loves, someone who doesn’t turn love into competition or make me question where I stand. I want clarity, not confusion; effort, not guessing games.
I don’t want to feel like I have to convince someone of my worth or chase emotional reassurance. I want honesty, emotional maturity, and a man who can communicate and be accountable instead of being petty or withdrawn during conflict.
I also value a partner who can put ego aside when it matters, someone willing to grow, reflect, and repair when things go wrong.
I understand that people come into relationships with past experiences and emotional wounds. I am not expecting perfection, but I do want self-awareness, patience, and emotional responsibility. I want someone who is gentle with my healing process, who doesn’t use my past against me, and who creates a safe space for me to grow while I continue doing my own inner work.
Most importantly, I want a love that feels safe and steady, where I can be open, soft, and fully myself without fear of being judged, dismissed, or emotionally unsafe.
Behind closed doors, I've done so much for people... real help, real support, no cameras, no credit. So when my name come up, don't just run with whatever story sounds good... Tell that part too! Tell them how I showed up when I ain't even have to. Tell them how I poured into people who couldn't pour back. Tell how I stayed solid, even when it wasn't returned. Don't be quick to speak on the surface, but quiet about what really went on. Keep it real all the way or don't speak on my name at all. ‼️
I stood on business that wasn’t even mine. I gave my last without hesitation. I carried other people’s problems just to make life easier for them. I showed up when I didn’t have to. I looked out when I could’ve just minded my own. So when it comes to loyalty,don’t question me 🤍
You ever sit and think about it…and realize the only reason it lasted as long as it did is because you kept accepting things you shouldn’t have? You kept being patient. Kept understanding. Kept giving chances. Instead of choosing yourself sooner.
I think the best thing I'm learning as an adult is to ignore people. When you realize people say & do weird & evil things to get a reaction out of you, you learn that silence is more powerful than proving a point. NO response is the loudest response.
One of the main reasons I stopped oversharing is because certain friendships and relationships lack substance, so they utilize your business as topic of discussion. I value my privacy, and I don’t want anyone who hasn’t been told about my business to know anything.
End of the day, if someone cares about you, they care about how their actions impact you and make you feel. That's all you need to know about people if you want them in your life.
If you have to keep explaining how you feel, they’re choosing not to understand.
My mental health come before anything. I’m hangin up phones, declining calls, falling back from friendships and relationships. Whatever I gotta do. If it messes with my peace or got my mind feeling off, I’m out. I’m takin care of me first and I hope you on the same type of time.
At least you showed up authentically. At least you moved with honesty. At least you were direct with how you felt. At least you communicated openly and maturely. At least you tried. At least you never reciprocated their cruel behaviour. Your actions are a reflection of you.
i do right by everyone at first and then i mirror you once you show me how you are, people hate when u show them how it feels to be treated the same way they treat you. ppl hate their reflection.
A lot of y’all are so blind to the fact that YOU’RE the catch… Your loyalty is unmatched, your heart is one of the purest, your beauty is impeccable, your love is rare, & there’s something about you that nobody can compare to. Once you realize how RAW you are, you’ll stop dealing with mfs who treat you like you’re regular.💯
People don’t talk enough about how beautiful it is to feel secure in love. No anxiety, no half-hearted affection, no feeling almost chosen. Just being certain they want you. No begging, no shrinking, no trying to prove your worth. That kind of love is everything.
You cannot rush life. Things happen when they are supposed to happen. Your role is to show up everyday and give it your best. Your best will not be the same everyday. There are days you’ll be motivated and some you’ll feel defeated. And such is life! Keep keeping on!