I reported a police officer to the Federal High Court Abuja.
Not PSPC. Not his DPO. Not his IG.
Federal High Court.
Let me tell you what he did to make me go that far.
Look online: there are pages teaching young men how to text a lady, how to talk to a girl, how to ask her out, how to be confident around women, and how to satisfy a woman. There’s literally a niche educating men on women’s psychology and bodies. But still online, on the other hand, you’ll see a whole niche indoctrinating women into solipsism, detachment, and the worst possible personality - nothing on male psychology or how to be with men.
“Women-only gym,” “women’s-only canteen,” “women are not initiators,” “if he doesn’t, don’t blah blah,” “if he cannot, don’t blah blah.”
At the end of the day, men learn how to be with women, and women never learn how to be with men.
And because the motivation for men to be with women is, majorly and naturally, sexual, men get women, f*ck women, and lose the fog right after that. With that, the woman’s presence - which was never fun but made fun by the man’s pressing need to ejaculate - becomes irritating right after ejaculation.
But this becomes a cycle, and it stays a cycle. Because the woman, in that instant, and being naturally allergic to accountability, interprets that event as the man being evil and “just after sex,” and never sees it as her not being fun to be with for any other reason but sex. So next time, with the next guy, she plays harder to get. But men stay educated on how to get women, and they do so. The woman falls again, gets f*cked, and gets the same post-sex attitude from another guy. At that point, she generalizes her experience: “all men are evil and deserve to die.” It never dawns on her to look inward.
Naturally, a woman cannot bring herself to reflect and hold herself accountable and, thus, be better. And socially, she’s conditioned to see the responsibility to be better as solely the man’s.
So, Men come online and see on their social media feeds stuff like “how to do X with women,” “how to satisfy a woman,” “how to make her fall for you,” and are immediately reminded that they can do better. This is not the same for women.
Women stay illiterate on her to be with men. And women complain about men being cold around women. These are the problems.
A man who wants to marry you will not take more than six months to a year to decide, especially if he's obviously ready. I dated my lovely wife for nine years, yes, but I met her when both of us were nobodies.
And we were very young.
So we had all the time in our hands.
But I first made up my mind to marry my lovely wife within the first few weeks of meeting her.
Even though I never told her.
She had given me about 1,000 or 2,000 when I met her one day, and I told her that I wanted to go see my father but I was broke.
She gave me the money.
I had not spent a dime on her prior to that time.
I was very grateful, and I have never forgotten about it.
From then for 9 years, we were stuck with each other.
And God came through for us.
But this is my story.
Not yours.
And yours doesn't have to be like mine. As a lady, once you've crossed 25, any relationship you enter should have marriage as the end goal.
And it won't take him more than one year to decide that.
So you must be strategic in your choice.
Your late 20s are not for fooling or hoeing around.
They're for you to strategically position yourself for a man who would be interested in you, & possibly make you a wife.
And he doesn't have to be in his late 30s too.
A man that is just 2 years older than you may be more serious and committed.
And he doesn't have to be rich.
Neither does he need to have a car.
All he needs to have is a good job, a decent apartment, and a functioning & non-fraudulent brain and mindset.
A man between 28 and 35 would be happier to date you than a man in his late 30s.
If you're 26, he's 28 or 30.
If you're 28, he's 30 or 32.
You'd see the chemistry between you.
Please listen to me.
As long as you're willing to be respectful, not greedy, faithful and feminine, a man must marry you before you're 30.
If you meet those ones that are willing to share the little they have with you, in a form of provision in marriage, consider them.
Some men have more than enough as single men, but they're not willing to share unless you're willing to part with yours too.
Above all, you need the grace and mercy of God.
You may do everything right, but you might just be unfortunate enough to meet the wrong man.
So let's pray against that.
Do not let any man waste your time with endless promises and sweet preeq.
If within one year he has not introduced you to his mother and siblings at least, and told them that you're his girlfriend (not just a friend), then you need to rethink your relationship.
The siblings and mother should also show you that they like you and want you for their brother.
Yes, because if he says a lot of good things about you to them, you'd know from the way they treat and welcome you.
Lastly, please ensure that you cohabit at intervals.
I hope I have made sense to you.
Because you Gen Zs have coconut heads.
Person go dey talk enter one ear, e go dey commot from the other ear.
End.
Women tend to understand this thing only when it comes close to home. Like I’ve said many times, looking at life through gender lens only is stupid because our lives are interconnected. When a lady is raped, it affects the men in her lives too who demand justice. She has a father, brothers, nephews, male cousins, male friends, uncles and others.
Same applies when a man is falsely accused. He has a mother, sisters, nieces, female cousins, aunties, female friends among others, who are all affected by extension.
If you don’t fight for justice, the long arm of injustice that was created by the values you promoted, will find a way to poke at you directly or through your love ones. Gender bias will not save you when you have relationship with the other gender