routine. you’re the parent. they can whine all they want to but unless you consistently enforce a routine they can’t & won’t do it. my son has been on a bedtime routine since he was a baby. by 8 he’s asleep & the house is clean.
I do not play about people telling my business ! I don’t care if you told someone I have a trip coming up or what I ate for breakfast ! I won’t tell you anything else ! I don’t like a person who talk too much about what I got going on !