what about femmes that want to provide for their butches? what if they wanna spoil their butch and do everything for them, want to have a close emotional bond with them and their butch reciprocates all of it? what if both of them are obsessed with eachother equally?
Butches aren't just objects without feelings and needs of their own. They're people who are vulnerable and need support just as anyone does..
100/0 relationships are not healthy or fair.
And historically, femmes were the ones bread winning and helping to provide+