an album I’ll defend forever. the artistry, vulnerability and production are unreal. I’m happy that people are still discovering it cuz every song has the power to resonate with someone
"SE ELES QUEREM TE PINTAR COMO UMA VILÃ, ENTÃO FAÇA POSE." - Katy Perry.
Frase escrita em um dos cenarios presentes no palco do "Out Of Office", show de verão de Katy Perry.
Katy Perry, albümü çıktığında beklediği ilgiyi alamayınca depresyona girdiğini açıkladı:
🧸"2017 yılında Witness albümüm çıktığında ve o güne kadar alışık olduğum o devasa halk ilgisi bir anda bıçak gibi kesildiğinde kalbim gerçekten kırıldı."
🧸"Hayatım boyunca şöhretin ve insanların o sahte onayının beni iyileştireceğine inanmıştım."
🧸"İlgi azalınca içimdeki o karanlık kuyuyla baş başa kaldım ve klinik depresyona girdim."
Projection vs projective identification
PROJECTION is simpler:
They have a quality they can’t tolerate in themselves, so they unconsciously assign it to you. They don’t own their rage, so they decide you’re the angry one. It stays mostly in their head. You’re just a screen they’re projecting onto.
PROJECTIVE IDENTIFICATION goes further:
It’s not just that they see the quality in you — they behave toward you in ways that actually pressure you to become it. They treat you as rageful, they provoke you, they create conditions where you eventually explode — and now the projection has a body. You’re performing the role they assigned you, often without realizing it.
The classic trap of the scapegoat losing their temper and “proving” the family narrative.
Narcissists believe what they think of you or how they choose to perceive you actually defines who you are.
Like their internal image of you is you, and the real you is the intruder.
Their sheer arrogance behind this borders on delusion.
When they decide you’re worthless, contemptible, crazy — they’re not describing you. They’re declaring you. Issuing a verdict they expect reality to honor.
And it explains the rage when you don’t collapse into the identity they’ve assigned. You’re not just disagreeing with them. You’re violating the rules of a universe where their perception has the force of law.
It also explains why smear campaigns aren’t just revenge — they’re enforcement. If they can get enough people to perceive you the way they do, the perception gains mass. It starts to function like reality. Third-party validation is how they try to make their internal verdict stick.
The deepest version of this is probably the grandiose self-image — they hold that one in place through force of will too. The same mechanism that lets them declare you worthless lets them declare themselves exceptional. It’s not confidence. It’s insistence. The belief that what they need to be true becomes true because they need it to.
You’re essentially dealing with someone who has never fully accepted that other people are real, separate, and self-defining. You exist in relation to their perception — or you don’t exist meaningfully at all.
nikki blonsky pre-racial slur.
zac efron at his prime.
amanda bynes perfectly cast.
elijah kelley singing his face off.
john travolta living his truth.
QUEEN LATIFAH.
quite possibly one the best musical movies of the 2000s, if not THEE best.
A narcissist never fully recovers from losing a super empath.
Because they lost someone who kept loving them while ignoring their own pain.
Both have the same childhood wounds.
Both felt neglected and abandoned.
One learned to survive by over-loving, over-giving...
the other by shutting down.
The empath sees the pain beneath the narcissist's mask... and stays.
That's why this connection can feel deeper than love and harder to break. I's beyond trauma bonding.
The super empath sees the wounds beneath the narcissist's mask.
The insecurity. The pain. The wounded child hiding behind control, anger or charm.
And instead of leaving... they stay, love harder, forgives more and understands deeper.
That's what makes the connection so powerful. For the first time, the narcissist feels seen beyond the mask... and not rejected.
Other people may give the narcissist attention... but few can offer the depth, understanding and unconditional love a super empath gives.
The super empath didn't just love the mask.
They loved what was hiding underneath.
But the tragedy is:
The super empath loses themselves in the process.
Their compassion becomes self abandonment.
Their patience becomes toxic tolerance.
And while the narcissist is being saved... the super empath slowly breaks.
Eventually the super empath reaches a breaking point.
Not because they stopped loving the narcissist...
but because they realise love cannot heal someone who refuses to face their own wounds.
That is the final heartbreak.
The super empath walks away to save themselves.
And the narcissist loses the one person who saw beyond the mask... and stayed.
If this hit home, then you need to hear this: it's time to stop trying to save the person who is hurting you and start saving yourself.
#narcissists #traumabond #soulties
A NARCISSIST will calmly BAIT you and BAIT you and BAIT you, until you snap. Then rally support & sympathy from their 'flying monkeys' by telling them what you did, claiming you are the NARCISSIST.
regret to inform that katy perry has now lost the pilates community roar came on shuffle in class today and instructor said “absolutely not” and changed it within 3 seconds
The narcissist’s special skill is destroying good people. They see a good person, happy, compassionate, honest, and they begin their attack. It’s a slow, persistent chipping away of a person. They begin shaming that person. They begin sewing seeds of doubt, trying to make that person second-guess themselves. They start planting seeds of doubt in other people. Consistently eroding away their targets public image and self-esteem. They abuse their target, talk bad about their target, shame their target for doing nothing wrong. And what is their explanation? When people ask why they are doing this to their target, the narcissist says “they’re abusive”, pure projection. And that’s their excuse. And they are so adamant and aggressively bitter towards genuinely good, honest people, that witnesses think the target must’ve done something wrong, because why would anybody be so insanely and obsessively hateful towards an innocent person? And that’s what is so insane about it. Just think about that. The hatred towards good a malignant narcissist has to go that far to destroy innocent people. It’s evil.
Your abuser wants you dead. If they engage in financial sabotage. If they stop uou from accessing healthcare. If they sabotage your career. If they don’t let you work or sleep. If they steal your meds. They want you dead.
It’s hard to believe, but for a malignant narcissist, the ultimate “win” is seeing a victim pushed to the point of suicide. It’s not just about control—it’s about total domination over someone else’s reality. They get a perverse thrill from knowing they’ve broken a person so completely that they’ve erased their sense of self.
It’s also about the story they get to tell afterward. If the victim dies by suicide, the narcissist can spin it as proof that the victim was “troubled”, “crazy,” and that they “did everything they could”, cementing themselves as untouchable while erasing the victim’s voice entirely. For them, it’s the ultimate confirmation that they can manipulate, destroy, and rewrite reality to suit their narrative.
It’s horrifying, but this is why protecting mental health and raising awareness about these people isn’t just important—it’s a matter of humanity and survival
Gente é simples: nos últimos anos viralizaram fotos dela no metgala feitas por IA, e ao ir ao met gala com um look futurista com 6 dedos na mão (erro que é muito comum nas IAs) ela joga pro público esse questionamento, oque de fato é real?
let them. let them lie. let them be a victim. let them twist the story. let them talk. let them believe what they need to. you don’t need to defend your truth to people committed to misunderstanding you. let them go. let them learn the hard way. let them face themselves when the the silence is louder than the chaos they created. protect you peace choose your growth, stand in your integrify that’s your power.
worst part of the literacy crisis is that you can’t use hyperbole or be dramatic anymore without some dumb fucking idiot thinking that you sincerely believe whatever exaggeration you said