Things the recovery industry will not tell you:
1. The drug worked. That is why people use it. Not weakness. Not moral failure.
A neurological event so complete and persuasive that any honest account of addiction has to start there.
The problem is not that the drug fails. The problem is that what it does is unrepeatable, and you will burn your entire life to the ground trying to get back to a place that no longer exists.
2. Shame is not guilt. Guilt says I did something bad. Shame says I am something bad. Guilt is appropriate. Shame is a cell with no windows. Most people use the words interchangeably. That mistake is lethal.
3. You cannot shame someone who has already named the thing you are holding over them. Say it first. Say it in plain light. The weapon drops.
4. Guilt can coexist with self-respect. Shame cannot. You can hold the damage and the dignity at the same time. I know because I live there.
5. Radical honesty does not give you back who you were. It hands you the clean slate of who you always wanted to be. The mask comes off. The cartoon other people drew of you stays on the page.
6. Nobody gets clean on a winning streak.
7. You have to be almost self-delusional in your forgiveness of yourself. (Go watch Chase Hughes)
8. The greatest sin was not the chaos. It was the absence. Being unavailable to the people who needed you.
9. Sustainable recovery starts with one thing: honesty with yourself. If you love an addict and want to help, that is the only door in.
10. I am only an expert on my recovery. Nobody is an expert on anyone else’s.
Sometimes you just have to tell people LOOK i love you & i'll probably always love you, but I'm no longer interested in the level of life you have to offer me & because of that I have to let you go. I'm not even asking you to change, you can keep doing exactly what you want to do & how you want to do it, you just can't do it with me anymore.
the amount of women who are DONE with men right now is crazy.
not bitter. not lonely. just completely over it.
congrats .. y’all fumbled an entire gender.
Please stop dating men who are comfortable living in survival mode. A limited man won’t just limit himself, he’ll limit you too. His ceilings become your ceilings. His fear becomes your hesitation. His lack of vision becomes the environment your dreams have to fight to survive in
Hasan Piker: “Whenever people say why do you care about Israel so much, I’m like why don’t you care about Israel? Are you fucking insane? Are you stupid? Are you out of your fucking mind? Are you oblivious to what’s going on? They are now advancing a measure in Congress to literally merge the foreign military of Israel and the American military”