Bitter Tea Tor

Zinester, writer, library worker. Ex-evangelical & abuse survivor who will finish that goddamn memoir about it all. Bigender trans weirdo (they/them)

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

It’s the tweet to be the pinned tweet!

If you wanna read my work and support a queer, disabled, survivor of abuse these are the links:

https://t.co/ohGFsafB0T
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https://t.co/ltVAAYNpLd
https://t.co/Dkyz7dL7fc
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[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

a trans guy on t says he doesn’t pass & ppl will tell him it’s bc of his clothes/mannerisms/choices & he has to ‘put in the work’

a butch on t will exist & ppl will be like “what abt when it makes you indistinguishable from a cys man which is inherent to t & inevitable”

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

like ppl will headscratch about how a butch on t can exist and it’s like, bc there’s nothing in the testosterone that required how you engage with gender & sexuality to change just bc you’re running on testosterone now.

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

gender is a multi-faceted thing, its your presentation, your intention, your pronouns, how you build & talk about your relationships, how you narrate your childhood & your present self & it’s really odd when ppl act like taking hrt -demands- some alignment of all these things.

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

promise?

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

@JessPected Growing up in a deeply deeply misogynistic family, I remember when I realized that misogyny was the reason my family could not seem to love me. They hate women too much

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

no that was scripted but there are mistakes/flubs that they left in this episode bc of how few cuts the episode has. (highly recommend getting the dvd of this & watching the director’s commentary on this episode so you can hear how HARD it was to pull off)

[🐜 @looovelorn]

never seen this show but was this scripted??? this looks like a genuine accident and they just went with it

[angela giarratana's pr manager 🩷 @StarrgirlWr1ter]

and the answer is still no

[✧ Pedro Paramore ✧ @SoupMuro]

🕯️🕯️🕯️

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

i’ve tried this but if you have a falling out with that friend well, there goes the whole group

[vya @bluestarshade]

Hey can i join your already established friend group

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

i think one of the worst things you can do for your own mental health is to believe in unconditional love. either that you need to give it or receive it. you are allowed to leave relationships behind. people are allowed to leave you. we don’t own each other.

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

@the_corvidae The only real problem I’ve ever had, like ppl who genuinely make me unable to engage with them are ppl who talk over me, or conversation hog, or treat me/my stuff like it’s fair game for them to touch/take/disregard. you know, just being rude. Otherwise, it’s fine? Ppl are fine.

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

@the_corvidae I work in the library & hang out at mostly queer-focused things, so I mostly engage with neurodivergent ppl w/ their own ‘norms’ & it’s fine. There is no one “social etiquette” I even follow other than learning how to ask ppl abt their lives & offer up my own

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

@the_corvidae What's funny too is that adapting to surface level politeness is easier than a lot of other social expectations. It's just scripts and polite nodding. Figuring out navigating other ppl's neurodivergencies esp when different than mine is harder. Most of my social learning is there

[Bitter Tea Tor @write_tor]

@the_corvidae Like the language itself is written in such a way to be incredibly off putting, and I find that funny coming from someone arguing that you should be less self-centered

[B👻 @storriebooked]

i think People should let lesbians pick the sexiest man alive because we can be more objective about it

[🪽 @grwief]

sure, it’s Wifi1234

[Amber Nicole @ambular_93]

Not to brag but I’m not scared of ANY American Girl dolls

[Deer in Places they Shouldn't Be @deershouldnt]

Good morning