This chapter is called Self-Respect. You stress me, i disappear. You show fake support, i distance myself. You disrupt my peace, i block access. You underestimate my growth, i move in silence.
You cross boundaries, i cut ties.
I’m not perfect, and I’ll never act like I am. I’ve made mistakes, handled things wrong, and had moments I could’ve moved better. But one thing about me, my intentions are always pure. I don’t go around trying to use people, play with them, or do anyone wrong. I may not always get everything right, but my heart is always genuine.
I don’t want a soft life because I’m lazy. I want a soft life because I’ve spent most of my life in survival mode. my nervous system has been in fight or flight since childhood and now I’m choosing peace and stability.
I’m a firm believer that people’s actions make it clear that they have no respect or regard for you, regardless of what they say. You just gotta realize it & take it for what it is.
Some people’s karma is them watching you live on to be happy after they tried to sabotage things for you. What the bible say? “ I will prepare a table for you in the presence of your enemies.” 🤏🏾✨
GIRL WAKE UP 🌸 you’re HER, start acting like it! stop overextending and giving too much access. don’t force nothing… what’s for you is already yours. you attract, you don’t chase 💅🏾💖 everything meant for you will come easy. now stand up! saying no is power, boundaries are necessary. become who you need to be to attract what you want 😌✨ head high, energy aligned
I spent so much time making sure everybody else was good that I got used to putting myself last. The more I kept showing up for people, the more they expected it without thinking twice. After a while I realized I was giving people a version of me I wasn’t even giving myself. If choosing me makes me look selfish, I’m cool with that. I know what it feels like to always come last, and I’m not living like that anymore.
If we date, don’t stop being you. Keep having fun, keep seeing your friends, keep chasing your goals, and keep enjoying your life. A relationship should add to your life, not take away from it. Just make sure you save time for us too.
If I’m being honest, I don’t know how to show up the same way a second time.If you hurt me in any way friendship or romantic relationship . I will heal from it, and I’ll most likely forgive you.But the version of me you hurt… the one who showed up with no doubts,
people will twist the story, play victim, and act like you were the problem. but when you know your heart and your truth, you don’t owe nobody an explanation. karma always circles back. ‼️💯
NGL I JUST HEARD SOMEONE SAY, “MAYBE YOU DON’T NEED MORE TIME TO HEAL, MAYBE YOU NEED MORE EXPERIENCES THAT SHOW YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM A DIFFERENT REALITY,” AND YEAH… IT ECHOED IN ME
someone putting you through the same pain more than twice means they hate you... i'm sorry but there's just no other way to justify how you hurt someone, see the pain you've caused, etc, do whatever it takes to get them to trust & love you again just to put them through it again
Cardi B said, “I cried for 300 days last year and none of yall called me up.”
And that hit home. Because this past year, I cried more than I ever have in my entire life. Silent tears, heavy tears, tears that nobody saw.