WAIT WAIT WAIT — SO APPARENTLY IF YOU FEEL A PHYSICAL RESISTANCE IN YOUR BODY WHEN SOMEONE TELLS YOU WHAT TO DO — EVEN IF YOU WERE ALREADY GOING TO DO IT — THAT'S ACTUALLY AN ADHD RESPONSE??
Yes. It has a name and it's not stubbornness.
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MALE ADHD INTIMACY PATTERNS that are often mistaken for not caring.
He cares completely. He just shows it in a format nobody ever taught you to recognise.
Dating someone with BPD and strong attachment issues can make healthy boundaries feel like abandonment 💀 If your boundaries always become a battle, just stand firm 🏃
One of the saddest parts of the autistic experience for me is being able to see the wholeness and nuances of others while they are unable to see the wholeness and nuances of me.
So when misunderstandings occur, I see them as exactly that, misunderstandings, while the other person sees whatever happened as my fault or a moral failing on my part...
Why the Avoidant Wants an "Easy" Relationship
Here's the truth: avoidants don't seek deep connection first - they seek emotional safety.
That's why they're drawn to relationships that feel "easy," effortless, and low-pressure.
But here's what that really means underneath: 1/7
Dating someone with BPD can become emotionally exhausting when abandonment fears control the relationship💀 If every bit of distance feels like rejection, step back🏃
WHY DOES REJECTION FEEL PHYSICAL WITH ADHD?
It isn't always “just hurt feelings.”
Your chest gets tight.
Your stomach drops.
Your hands shake.
Your heart starts racing.
WHY?
Emotional rejection can trigger a strong stress response, making emotional pain feel physical.
I speak to my therapist I don't know why I miss people who weren't even good for me.
He gave me a journal and said,
“If you know someone hurt you, disappointed you, or gave you less than you deserved but still find yourself missing them, these 10 questions will reveal what you may actually be grieving when you say, ‘I miss them.’”
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