@Mara9396@Theholisticpsyc Oh, I for sure think so ! Whether he’s successfully fulfilling that responsibility or not … or even my personal fave - a little here / a little there / a lot touch and go … hehe.
@tink_ina@linds_longcovid "Maybe they also feel comfortable in believing that they have no power to help because then they don’t have to"
This resonates quite well. Powerful words.
This is such an important truth that often gets overlooked. People love to throw around the idea that trauma makes you stronger, as if surviving something painful automatically turns you into a warrior. But that narrative erases the very real damage trauma leaves behind. It’s not just about coming out the other side—it's about what it takes from you in the process. Trauma rewires your nervous system, keeps you on edge, and messes with your body in ways that can take years to unravel.
Telling someone they’re stronger because of their trauma can feel like you’re asking them to ignore the scars it’s left. It minimizes the exhaustion of living in survival mode, of constantly feeling like you have to be ready for the next blow. It dismisses the very real toll it takes on both mind and body.
Yes, people find ways to cope, and that in itself is a kind of resilience. But let’s not romanticize the damage. Surviving trauma doesn’t make someone inherently stronger; it makes them human. Instead of focusing on the supposed “strength” it brings, let’s acknowledge the weight of what it costs to simply keep going after the storm. True strength isn’t just in surviving—it's in healing and finding peace after the damage is done.
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@Theholisticpsyc Bingo. GASP. Wow. I would be honored to get the chance to talk to you a bit about this privately, if at all possible. This research may be the answer I’ve been searching for after 10 desperate years of anguish over my bizarre relationship with my 2nd born children (twins).
It’s funny that we make excuses for ourselves by using ‘mom brain’ and ‘baby brain,’ as if the reason we’re occasionally scatterbrained isn’t because we’re responsible for the mental load of our entire family.
@IHideFromMyKids Own little stash of little useless bags made to fit tents or ALL THE umbrellas or soccer mom folding chairs with parts you’ll never hunt for when the thing it came with breaks …
@IHideFromMyKids last but not least … I came here to say : one of my greatest “adulting” accomplishments of my entire adult career … was the day I let that show go … no joke , screw that ratty closet corner . TINY LITTLE BAG MEANT FOR larger cumbersome item I truly purchased to obtain??
@IHideFromMyKids People actually even try to put it back ?? I thought by now we all just intrinsically understood we would never understand why things like that are the way they are - so hard ? Esp when it’s been an issue instead of helpful for eons…
@IHideFromMyKids Except apparently those of you here who tried for some reason ? I just roll that beotch up like a regular blanket and also why are you using a sleeping bag anyway ? Unless you kid is a Boy Scout ?