Maturity is realizing that a relationship can work and actually be fixed in almost any situation. It just takes the both of you to actually want it to work and correct what you're doing that is hurting your partner.
My man told me something the other day that lowkey rearranged my brain a little.
He said, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your father, I’m your partner. You’re grown, you can make whatever choices you want. Just know every choice comes with consequences. If you pick something that hurts what we built, that decision belongs to you.”
Then he goes, “I’m always gonna tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s how real communication works. But if I show you where the line is and you keep stepping over it, then you’re not protecting us… you’re just choosing yourself.”
And yeah… that’s when it clicked for me. Accountability in a relationship isn’t yelling, rules, or control. It’s someone giving you freedom and trusting you to care enough not to misuse it.
No necklace. No bangs. Angie tendrils. Reddish hair. Classic tank. Short ass short shorts. Now’s the time to see who acc cared about “classic faithfulness” and who really only ever cared about her looking fuckable
Women are going to do what they want no matter what, so you just gotta hope if you really like a girl that she likes you more than the other guys she's talking too.
It is what it is.
Modern men have to work five times harder than their grandfathers for women twenty times worse than what their grandmothers were.
It's called hoeflation and it's destroying men's desire to date and marry.
Here lies the core issue of the status-quo enjoyer.
They simply have no frame of reference for recent history, and especially history that they lived through. Everything is seen through the lense of some pompus neoliberal academic that blamed the "American consumer" ignoring all of the government interventionism that brought us to where we are.
They will say that ACTUALLY Americans want bigger houses which is why small starter homes are a thing of the past and why housing is so expensive. MEANWHILE minimum lot sizes literally MADE BUILDING SMALL STARTER HOMES FOR YOUNG FAMILIES ILLEGAL.
They will say that ACTUALLY americans want bigger cars, which is why we don't have small trucks. MEANWHILE CAFE regulations made building THIS TRUCK ILLEGAL.
No. Consumers didn't wake up one day and decide they didn't want a 2 seater pickup that got 25 mpg and told Ford marketing surveys they want massive trucks that feel like your driving a boeing 737. Those trucks were regulated out of existence by accellerated CAFE standardsd under democrats who literally wanted to regulate the ICE out of the market.
This was compounded by the fact that these larger more expensive products are only accessible via financing which has made lenders unfathomably wealthy and contributed to the over financialization of the American economy.