tolerating always turns to resentment.
at first, you call it patience, then love; but what it really is, is self-abandonment. every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score.. and eventually, the bill comes due.
I don't accept people treating me weirdly when they're "going through something" because when I'm going through something I'm still nice and I'm still kind and I don't feel like that's an excuse to treat people like shit.