One of the things I’ve stopped tolerating when it comes to communication is dealing w/ ppl who cross the line simply bc they’re upset. Your inability to regulate your emotions does not give you permission to disrespect others or say purposefully hurtful things to prove a point. You have a character problem.
If you are unable to move on. Go to them again and again. Feel the disrespect, again and again—until one day, something in you snaps and says, ‘Do I really deserve this?’ That’s the day you’ll finally walk away—stronger than ever.
You attract avoidants because you don't give up on people the moment they become difficult to understand. You look for the reason behind their behavior instead of
assuming they don't care.
Overextending yourself for people and making their emergencies your own emergency doesn’t make you more loved; it makes you more used. Trust me, they’d be fine without you. Being kind is powerful. Being kind without boundaries is exhausting.
The day you stop expecting them to show up, things just get quiet. No big drama, you just stop checking your phone as much. And that’s the exact moment you start accepting reality, and finally find your peace.
Once the attachment fades, they stop looking like your soulmate. Suddenly, they're just an avoidant with a massive ego, bad communication skills, no accountability, and always playing the victim.
Life teaches you detachment the hard way. Nothing truly belongs to you. People change, moments pass. Love can be here one day and gone the next. Savor every bit of it while it’s present, but don’t cling too tightly. When things shift, release them. When the energy starts to fade, step back and guard your peace.