Unfortunately, I do want a provider. I do want a protector. I do want a leader. I do want a dominant man. I do want emotional maturity and effective communication. I do want mental stability. I do want to be spoiled. I do want self awareness. I do want clingy, obsessed and safe. I do want someone who chooses me every time. And nobody is going to make me feel bad for wanting those things in a partner.
Just finished watching the Earth, Wind, and Fire documentary. You can eat all the healthy foods for decades but adverse childhood experiences will take you out everytime. Goodness.
its rly cool that other people have gotten to damage me so badly that i feel incapable of having the life/relationships i long to have & i have to somehow do the unbearable work of trying to fix what others have done to me so that i can -maybe- have some version of happiness haha
The reality is that it doesn’t matter if someone wants to or not. If you have expectations that are not being met then they’re not being met. If you communicate about it and there’s no improvement? You’re wasting your time and need to move on