Autism: I need to understand why the rule exists.
ADHD: The rule has to make immediate sense or I’m ignoring it.
AuDHD: Explain it, make it logical, keep it short… and don’t act shocked when I’ve already found the loophole.
I’m not the ‘misses social cues’ kind of autistic. I’m the ‘detects every social cue, every micro-expression, the tension in the room, the power dynamics, and a mysterious third layer of vibes so I end up buffering like an overloaded laptop because I’m trying to work out which reality everyone else is operating in’ kind of autistic.