The 'Let Them' Theory
The let them theory says that if someone wants to act a certain way, let them. If they misunderstand you, let them. If they don't talk to you, let them, or if they treat you inconsistently, let them-not because it doesn't affect you, but because their actions already give you information about who they are and what they want. Instead of forcing things, you accept the reality that you can't control everything, like how someone feels, how they show up, or how you want them to choose you. By choosing to let them, you start to see things more clearly and learn to choose yourself, your standards, and your boundaries, helping you see people for who they truly are, not based on potential but on how they really are.
“I get niggas”
Now tally up the amount of QUALITY niggas you get. Then get back to us. Until then love yourself outside of the amount of niggas you attract.
Airbnb hosts are online complaining that people aren’t booking with them anymore. Why would I pay a cleaning fee and still be expected to clean the place before I check out when I could be at a hotel enjoying the view, daily housekeeping, and room service instead?
Once you cut people out of your life, you need to become very comfortable with them talking bad and making things up about you. Because they will fill your silence and your absence with stories that make them feel better about losing access to you. People rarely take accountability when it’s easier to paint you as the villain.