I know say coast never clear for you and disrespect don dey enter from all angle, from family, friend & your girl
No too reason am my G, in a man’s life there must be trials & tribulations. It is a must for you to be tested
Stay strong. Stay grinding, soon u go burst everywhere
@Greatmannfxlion Wow!!!!!!!!!!
We really appreciate you for being real and sharing your story.
You didn't have to, but you did. Thank you
Better days are already here💪🏾
Today is 23rd of April. I’m sitting alone in my hostel room, just thinking and writing. I don’t even fully understand why I’m doing this, but I feel the need to connect with people out here on a deeper level.
If there’s one thing I want you to take from this, it’s simple:
stay away from crystal meth — ice, para, whatever you call it.
My story didn’t start with ice.
listen, i will tell you a secret
pay solid attention
if your goal is to network with wealthy people, the mistake most people make is treating it like a hunt instead of building real access, also asking for help esp money. in fact, it’s the fastest way to get ignored therein after.
rich circles are really not hard to enter cos of money alone but cos of trust, relevance and consistency. if you don’t naturally fit into their environment, you won’t stay there long enough to matter. they sense desperation and negative energy from afar even before it appears, i mean the levels at which they operate has made them naturally wired for that.
the better approach is to place yourself in the right spaces where these people already move.
think of;
industry events in finance, tech, real estate, high end professional groups, charity events or lifestyle environments like golf or private clubs. these settings remove the pressure of approaching people and let conversations happen naturally.
but presence alone is not enough, what keeps you in those circles is value. that could be skill, insight, access or the ability to solve problems without something you bring to the table, interactions stay surface level and don’t develop into real connections.
also avoid direct or forced networking attempts. people respond better when you are part of the system not someone trying to get into it.
once your in the right environment and consistently show up with value and good character, the relationships build gradually and naturally over time.
buena suerte 👍
Some years ago, I knew a brother who was very generous. You can't be his friend and not have testimony of one or two times he came through for you, either by way of money, advice or words of encouragement.
But at some point, I don't know if I should say Nigeria happened to him. But things became really hard for him, and everything just went down almost at once. The people he had around him then showed him their true colours. The same people he once helped started avoiding his calls. One particular person he even helped to rent a shop couldn't even come through for him. That was the one that broke his heart completely.
It was during this time that we met and we became friends, but there was so little I could do for him at the time. The day I even found out that he attends my church was the day we were doing fundraising for St. Vincent De Paul, and this man gave ₦20,000. After mass that day, I met him and asked him if something had clicked and he didn't tell me. But he said
“If I stop doing good because people are wicked to me, then wickedness has won.”
Less than a year later, a total stranger he once helped with transport fare to attend an interview came back into his life. He had risen to a position where he could help, and he remembered him. He gave him a contract that changed his life completely.
So life really has a way of rewarding consistency. Don’t you ever change your good heart because of ungrateful people. Just keep being kind, and your season of harvest will surely come.
Speaking about the deep contradictions in human nature, Japanese actor Hiroyuki Sanada said:
“Some people dream of having a swimming pool at home, while those who have one barely use it. Those who have lost a loved one feel a profound sense of loss, while others often complain about the relatives still in their lives. Those without a partner long for one, while those who have a partner often fail to appreciate them. The hungry would give anything for a meal, while the full complain about the taste of their food. Those without a car dream of owning one, while those who have a car are always looking for a better one.
The key to happiness is gratitude—to truly see and value what we already have, and to understand that somewhere, someone would give everything for what we take for granted.”
We need to put an end to these conversations and narratives. A traditional 9-5 job represents the biggest and most significant opportunity for shifting and fundamentally changing one's life trajectory and career path. Capitalism, as an economic system, rewards skill and competence—the more skillful and proficient you are at what you do, the better and more substantial the reward you can expect to receive. All this money and income that we claim to make online and through digital means is actually made possible by hardworking 9-5ers who are doing amazing and essential work at companies and organizations that enable us to earn income online in the first place.
Most of our lives are quietly spent chasing external validation, approval from strangers, institutions, audiences, and abstractions, because it feels measurable, visible, and rewarding.
In contrast, the people closest to us, parents, partners, children, friends, offer no scoreboard. Their presence becomes familiar, predictable, and therefore dangerously easy to take for granted. We assume time is abundant, affection is permanent, and opportunities to show care will always return.
So we postpone effort at home while exhausting ourselves proving worth elsewhere. Only when someone leaves, through distance, silence, or death, does the illusion break. Then the imbalance becomes painfully clear: how much energy we spent being admired, and how little we invested in being present, and that regret doesn't leave you after that.
If 1 item is 200 naira, they will automatically sell 3 items for 500 naira.
Some of our old clothes automatically becomes rag.
There is a particular house in the street we use to know if there is light at home.
Lying about the date of your event to your tailor so your clothes can be ready on time.
Once you spend 1000 naira from 10k the rest is history.
If you are between 18 and 26, this is what inconsistency will do to you.
This is the most dangerous age to be unserious with your life. Not because you are old, but because time is still giving you grace. You have strength, speed, ideas, access to the internet, opportunities, connections and energy. But inconsistency will quietly turn all of that into nothing.
Inconsistency will make you start many things and finish none. You will register for courses and never complete them. You will learn skills halfway and abandon them. You will open businesses and shut them down before they breathe. You will start saving and stop. Start gym and quit. Start discipline and return to comfort. Then one day you will look back and realize you were busy but never productive.
Inconsistency will make you talented but irrelevant. People will know you are smart but never trust you with responsibility. You will have ideas but no execution. Vision but no structure. Dreams but no results. You will be known as potential, not achievement.
Inconsistency will waste your prime years. These years are supposed to build your foundation. Your skills. Your network. Your discipline. Your financial habits. Your reputation. If you play with these years, your thirties will be about survival instead of growth.
Inconsistency will destroy your confidence. Every time you quit on yourself, your mind records it. After a while, you stop trusting yourself. You stop believing you can finish anything. You become scared of commitment because you know your history.
Inconsistency will keep you broke. Money respects systems, not motivation. You cannot build wealth with vibes. You cannot grow with random effort. You need structure, routine, patience and repetition.
Inconsistency will make you envy your mates. You will watch people you started with overtake you. Not because they are smarter than you, but because they stayed on one road while you kept switching paths.
At 18 to 26, your greatest weapon is not talent. It is consistency. Show up every day. Build quietly. Improve daily. Stick to one path long enough for results to show.
Your future is not built by what you know. It is built by what you repeatedly do.
If you are still breathing, it is not too late. But do not waste another year pretending time is waiting for you.