Your Brilliance

#Love and lifestyle advice for the woman who wants it all.
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If you don't feel connected to your partner - if it feels like there's a thousand miles between you as you sit on the sofa with your phones - then that's a warning sign.

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Does your guy say this?

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Two roads diverge on a path. One road is blocked with a huge sign: "Go Away!" That isn't rejection; that's guidance. Be grateful for such an obvious sign that this isn't right for you.

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No one likes being criticized - but if your partner acts like a victim when you try to talk to them about their behavior, that's a red flag.

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Mastering trust is a two-part process. You've got to learn to give trust appropriately AND revoke trust appropriately.

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We no longer have to make ourselves beautiful and stand around, hoping to be approached. We can pick someone we'd like to talk to and strike up a conversation.

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It's hard to see your own beauty. But if you can see it in others, it's in you.

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When you're kind, giving, and flexible, you're the perfect partner... but at what cost?

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Our most fundamental relationship needs are attachment needs. If these needs go unmet, we shrink inside.

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It doesn't matter how much time passes. When you've been in an abusive relationship, those memories stay in your body like it was yesterday. What can put you on the path to healing? Embodied feelings of safety.

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When you struggle in your family of origin, it's tempting to believe the narrative: that the problem is YOU. If only you could be like everyone else! But the black sheep of the family is a potential cycle breaker - if others choose to listen.

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Even though Seth Godin isn't talking about romantic relationships here, he could be. This is the difference between a commitment-ready partner and one who isn't ready.

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Being a catch is overrated. In today's world, what matters is finding your MATCH. Your match is your person who's quirky in all the same ways you are.

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We often think that love is a sign that we're meant to be with someone. But what if love is just a nice feeling pointing to a possibility? We still get to choose whether we'd be happy throwing our future in with this person. https://t.co/or5pJ6OzmL

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When you're the one who's always giving, you start resenting the very people you're giving to. Don't worry so much about disappointing them. Worry more about the possibility of resenting them.

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Giving too much doesn't make your relationship better; it just drains you and creates a huge imbalance. Give appropriately, and take breaks to sit back and enjoy receiving.

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Joseph Campbell's description of marriage as an "ordeal" is the best description I've ever found. Marriage is not about love. It's about transformation.

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We hope that love will heal us. But human psychology has set us up to fail. Your partner's job, psychologically speaking, is not to give you the love you were missing but rather to trigger your wounds so YOU can heal yourself.

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Of course you have to accommodate your partner's preferences and wishes. But do you have to abandon yourself and change who you are?

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We're taught that you don't need a sword and shield in love. You should open your heart and stop protecting yourself. But as any woman with a little life experience knows, that's a recipe for hurt and betrayal. https://t.co/HfWbumcztq