This Mercury Retrograde in Cancer has really been highlighting to me where certain people lack accountability or even understanding of their actions & behaviour & how that has impacted their relationships with me. It’s been showing me where I still feel hurt by things people did
I think too many of y'all are expecting the breakdown of this empire to unfold in one, big boom instead of gradually because of the way how you consume & interpret history. case in point being that so many of you think there will still be elections in November.
I think this Mercury Retrograde in Cancer is teaching me that even if the person who has harmed me wants to move on and forget their actions, I don’t have to. It was a crucial part of my development. And the only way out? Is through. I will face my fears. And I shouldn’t
the truest signs of emotional intelligence is discernment. you may understand exactly why someone does what they do.
you see their patterns, their pain, their past, you can connect all the dots and see the bigger picture but you don't allow your empathy to override your self respect. just because you can understand why someone is treating you poorly doesn't mean you have to continue tolerating it. true emotional intelligence doesn't excuse hurtful behavior. it allows you to see someone's complexities while also discerning what's yours to hold vs what's theirs to heal.
at the end of the day, it's a win win. empathy without boundaries isn't emotional intelligence, it isn't love but it's self abandonment.