someone said "if you don't let people experience the consequences of their actions towards u, you will remain a safe place for their worst behavior" and I couldn't agree more
me watching people my age find love and build the life they always wanted while i’m just here learning lessons and unlearning trauma patterns wondering when it’ll be my turn
"my feelings are hurt and i need time to process them so i can better communicate with you" is a perfectly valid response & i wish we used it more in moments of conflict
According to psychology, if you always feel like people don't really like you, it's probably not because they don't. It's because you subconsciously filter out
the evidence that they do. It's called social hyper-vigilance. Usually, it comes from being bullied, never fully fitting in or
growing up in constant Criticism. Your brain learned to look for rejection before
connection.