It was hard. I will be honest. Really hard. But I chose to see it from a different perspective. African fathers are a different breed. They are notoriously poor at expressing love and would sooner stomp, shout and curse when all they want to say is, “Be careful.”
Then I considered the circumstances in which my father himself was raised. He, too, was a product of his generation, carrying wounds I will probably never fully understand. So, after everything that passed between us, I found myself looking at him a little more kindly. That is not to say it was easy. It wasn’t. Some of the things that were said are difficult to let go of. Really difficult. There are days I remember them and, for a fleeting moment, feel quite frankly inadequate.
It is why I laugh when strangers on the internet attempt to troll me. My own father has said worse. Who the hell do you think you are that your words should matter? But then, he is my father, and this is his first time being one. I have learned, difficult as it has been, to cut him some slack.
It was hard. I will be honest. Really hard. But I chose to see it from a different perspective. African fathers are a different breed. They are notoriously poor at expressing love and would sooner stomp, shout and curse when all they want to say is, “Be careful.”
Then I considered the circumstances in which my father himself was raised. He, too, was a product of his generation, carrying wounds I will probably never fully understand. So, after everything that passed between us, I found myself looking at him a little more kindly. That is not to say it was easy. It wasn’t. Some of the things that were said are difficult to let go of. Really difficult. There are days I remember them and, for a fleeting moment, feel quite frankly inadequate.
It is why I laugh when strangers on the internet attempt to troll me. My own father has said worse. Who the hell do you think you are that your words should matter? But then, he is my father, and this is his first time being one. I have learned, difficult as it has been, to cut him some slack.
For anyone looking for a low stakes way to do this, come together with some of your friends, have a once a month thing where 2 speakers pick a random topic to present on. Rotate the speakers every month. Have room for discussion. The good thing is, this can be done remotely too.
@bubbles_debs This website gives you a topic to research for a few minutes and you can record yourself talking about it for a minute. There’s also a vocabulary challenge with words you can incorporate to your speech!
https://t.co/18qHZI86D3
I’d always been fascinated by Jesus’ words “he who is faithful in very little is faithful in much,” because I’d seen first hand how it was often easier to do the godly thing in trivial situations, than in the consequential. For example, it is easier to tell the truth when nothing
Ejor e rora ma install pressure pump sinu building yin, o le fa casualty.
Jet spray to jade ninu bidet ti mo sese lo tan nisin, o fee le ja kini tan wi yi.
Abi kini ka ti gbo pe founder ma need surgery lati connect rectum e pada.
E jor e je ka fi suru si modern technology yi o.
“This Guitar you like playing, how much has it brought?” “This chess that you like, shay u fit use am make money?” “This language wey u dey learn sef, no be say dem dey pay u” What a people?!
By ''open doors,'' he means money. Money, lol. Money, money, money. Money: I mean, what else could they live for? Get money, show money, spend money. Empty people.