Girls, please PICK THE GENTLE ONE. The kind one. The one who brings you peace. The protective one. The one who is sure of you. The one who respects you. The one who understands your silence. . The one who sees your heart without judgment. The one who holds your dreams with care.
this old lady just said to me “growth is realizing that someone’s inconsistency is a sign to step back, not a challenge to prove your worth” and i think y’all need to engrave this into your soul.
people lack accountability, then be like "you could've just talked to me". no, i couldn't. you don't listen. you deflect. you gaslight. you make me feel like i'm the problem for bringing it up. so no, i stayed silent to protect my peace, not because I didn't want to fix.
a therapist on tiktok said…. “no one notices your sadness until it turns into anger, and then you're the problem. healing is realizing you became the angry person because no one saw your sadness first” felt that.
I read a quote that said
“The faster that you do the hard things you want to avoid, the faster you will receive the good things you actually want”
and that has changed my whole perspective.
You don't magically become focused. You practice it. You notice you're distracted and snap out of it immediately, over and over again until it's second nature. Most people have not trained this muscle, and they are not anywhere close to as focused as they think they are.
People with impeccable style + taste don’t make fashion & materialism their whole personality bc they have 1000 niche interests that contributes to building that level of taste + style
“i’d die for you” “i’d kill for you” ok but would you remember my favourite color? boil enough water for two coffees? would you truly listen? stay a while longer on a bad day? split a fruit in half because it tastes better when shared? would you care about the small things?
your progress doesn’t have to be seen, celebrated or validated by others to be real. what you’re doing right now, the efforts you put in, has always been and will always be something that you can be proud of yourself for, even if it’s on your own.